Just say a simple, ‘Yes, I will,’ or ‘No, I won’t.’ Anything beyond this is from the evil one. -Matthew 5:37, NLT When cheaters talk about being “trapped” in their marriage, I have little sympathy. Of course, I am willing to grant that they are experiencing “trapped” feelings. But to suggest the faithful spouse is the cause of … Continue reading “A Shotgun Wasn’t There!”
On Loving Lies
They perish because they refused to love the truth and so be saved. For this reason God sends them a powerful delusion so that they will believe the lie and so that all will be condemned who have not believed the truth but have delighted in wickedness. -2 Thessalonians 2:10b-12, NIV It is choice each of us … Continue reading “On Loving Lies”
Weeping May Last A “Night”…But Joy Is Coming! – Psalm 30:5
I will extol thee, O Lord; for thou hast lifted me up, and hast not made my foes to rejoice over me. O Lord my God, I cried unto thee, and thou hast healed me. O Lord, thou hast brought up my soul from the grave: thou hast kept me alive, that I should not … Continue reading “Weeping May Last A “Night”…But Joy Is Coming! – Psalm 30:5″
“Marriage is hard work.”
“Marriage is hard work,” says the pastor to the couple. This statement is true. Marriage does involve hard work. However, it does not paint the fullest–or healthiest–of pictures for marriage. Marriage is not all hard work. At least, that is not how I see God designing it. The Song of Songs suggests marriage is a lot of … Continue reading ““Marriage is hard work.””
Book Resource For Faithful Spouses
***POST UPDATE: BOOK NOT TO BE RELEASED NOW UNTIL MAY 10TH!*** Screen shot of book’s Amazon.com page (click here) Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide By Tracy Schorn –A FAITHFUL SPOUSE RESOURCE RECOMMENDATION— Today, Chump Lady‘s newest book was released in Kindle format (Hard copies are to be released later). … Continue reading “Book Resource For Faithful Spouses”
Cheater-speak: “I don’t want to hurt you.”
Cheater Reason NOT to Disclose Adultery and/or Infidelity Details: “I don’t want to hurt you.” This one was an especially annoying line of reasoning. It comes packaged to faithful spouse as altruism on the cheater’s part when the reality is the cheater is refusing to disclose for his/her own selfish reasons. We do not think “altruism”–i.e. … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I don’t want to hurt you.””
Two Common Christian Mistakes
Eliphaz replying to Job– “Consider now: Who, being innocent, has ever perished? Where were the upright ever destroyed? As I have observed, those who plow evil and those who sow trouble reap it.” -Job 4:7-8, NIV As I have blogged for closing on two years regarding infidelity and how Christians respond to faithful spouses, I … Continue reading “Two Common Christian Mistakes”
On Warm Baths and Nice Kitties
This time the dove returned to him in the evening with a fresh olive leaf in its beak. Then Noah knew that the floodwaters were almost gone. -Genesis 8:11, NLT Cheaters are already too central. As faithful spouses, we make them central for several very good reasons: 1) They are central because some of us … Continue reading “On Warm Baths and Nice Kitties”
Escaping to Romantic Fantasyland
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV It is pointless to engage in “reconciliation” efforts while a partner continues cheating. You are wasting time and treasure. The worst piece of advice I got was to take my focus off … Continue reading “Escaping to Romantic Fantasyland”
DM Blog Milestone: 200,000+ Views
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously! Milestone: Over 200,000 views from 70,000+ individuals! Thank you for all the visits and making this blog such a well-trafficked space on the internet! We have reached this milestone well under two years from the blog’s official launch in July of 2014. It is amazing what God is doing spreading … Continue reading “DM Blog Milestone: 200,000+ Views”