“Redeemed” wrote: It’s hard to read your blog, because you seem to be very bitter still, about everything to do with your marriage and it’s ending. My husband is training to be a minister and we had been married for 9 years and in September 2014 I started to have an affair for just under … Continue reading “Mailbag: “Are marriages really decimated by one person?” Um, Yeah.”
Betrayal Ripple Effect
Experiencing the adulterous betrayal of one’s spouse is bad enough. It is soul rape, after all. That pain alone is excruciating. A sucker punch to the gut that lingers for days, weeks, months…. It feels like your spouse disemboweled you and turned your world upside down with one awful adulterous revelation (let alone all that … Continue reading “Betrayal Ripple Effect”
Job Didn’t Always Feel The Love Either…
His wife said to him, “Are you still trying to be godly when God has done all this to you? Curse him and die.” – Job 2:19, TLB This is really tempting advice to take when the bottom has fallen out of one’s life.*** *** If you have a suicide plan and means, please seek … Continue reading “Job Didn’t Always Feel The Love Either…”
That Ick Feeling
Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. – Ephesians 5:11-12, NIV When I share about this blog with others, I am sometimes met with interesting reactions. One reaction I’ve got was a “Why would you blog … Continue reading “That Ick Feeling”
A Favorite Comforting Verse
“The Lord your God in your midst, The Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.” -Zephaniah 3:17, NKJV Here God is talking to His people coming out of exile. They know pain and suffering. Sadly, in this … Continue reading “A Favorite Comforting Verse”
“Well, we are all sinners.”
“Oh well, we are all sinners after all.” This lame religious excuse may be heard coming from the adulterous spouse and/or other Christian “apologists” seeking “neutral” ground in this situation. While it sounds wise and caring, it is really an extremely poor application of Biblical truth to the situation. Can you imagine accepting this from … Continue reading ““Well, we are all sinners.””
Tactics In Discrediting Faithful Spouses
When I was doing my first unit of Clinical Pastoral Education (CPE), I was blessed with some amazing classmates. We worked together learning about ourselves as well as how to bring quality pastoral care to those hurting at a Trauma One center in Hartford, CT. This unit took place while I was separated from my … Continue reading “Tactics In Discrediting Faithful Spouses”
Still Taking Feedback For Book
What posts or topics have you found most helpful or enlightening on my blog? Currently, I have a some idea of the posts/themes that need to be in this book. A title and angle I am thinking is below (subject to change): Divorce Minister’s Guide to Taking Adultery Seriously: Surviving A Spouse’s Infidelity While Remaining … Continue reading “Still Taking Feedback For Book”
Just Do It Already!
Jesus said to [Judas], “Friend, do what you came to do.” – Matthew 26:50a, ESV This weekend has been a busy weekend of celebration. We’ve been visiting my brothers and their families celebrating little kiddos’ birthdays. First, we celebrated my niece’s birthday, and now we are celebrating our Munchkin’s birthday. She is excited to open … Continue reading “Just Do It Already!”
Age Isn’t the Issue…
Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” “There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.” “Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” -I Samuel 16:11, NLT Not much has changed in years … Continue reading “Age Isn’t the Issue…”