In his mercy, God knew I probably would have held onto my first marriage well beyond what was good for me.
So, my ex filed on me, and I decided fighting the divorce was not worth it. I was not going to fight against a divorce that my Cheater was seeking. That was her choice–yet another in a series of poor, sinful ones.
That said, the divorce was scary for me. I had a lot to lose professionally as a Christian minister added to my own bias against getting a divorce. These were all things I had to overcome.
Today, I am very grateful for that divorce.
It cleared the way for the abundant life I have today with Mrs. DM and Munchkin. I could not see that future, though, when going through the divorce.
I do not know where you might be regarding your marriage’s fate. My encouragement to you is that divorce is not the worst option. Yes, it is hard and painful–but it can be a mercy freeing you from abuse as cheating is abuse.
Life can and does get better after divorcing the cheater! I know as I’ve lived it.
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