It felt different when it was final.

The divorce.

Up until then, I think I was still praying for a repentance miracle. Magical thinking is hard to shake, at least, for me. I got the papers, and then I knew it was truly over.

It just felt different.

My recommendation is to plan that day. Make sure you have some friends or a friend to be with on that day. Be kind to yourself then.

Some people might rejoice on that day. That is fine. We’re all unique in how we respond to loss. It can be mostly a relief for some.

I just know sadness was the predominant feeling for me that day and suspect I am not alone on that.

 

 

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