So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife;
Whoever touches her shall not be innocent.-Proverbs 6:29, NKJV
My Cheater loved the fantasy of being central and fought over for her affections.
I know this as that was the take away for her from watching the awful movie, “Fireproof.” The scene of the husband fighting for her affections contra the (emotional affair partner) doctor was what she loved about it. It probably helped that the movie doesn’t ever hold her accountable for her affair.
Sadly, I had my moments of weakness as our marriage ended. One of the most cringe worthy ones was when I made of a list of reasons I wanted her back. Of course, she already “knew” she was awesome 😉
Thankfully, I never had any direct Other Man drama. At least, I never had any encounters with the confirmed adultery partner of hers. It is one of the mercies God gave me that I did not have that added drama.
Of course, I wished I had been stronger and more focused on her affairs than I was. However, that is why I write this blog–i.e. to pass on lessons learned from my mistakes.
My cringe was about a week before he left on New Years day, I knew he was cheating by then: but I wrote a short note that “I would always love him, and I was sorry for anything I had done to cause this”. GAH ugh, ugh, ugh, vomit.
I meant in in real time, as I had no way of knowing then the depth and length of his betrayal, or how much I would be disgusted by him in just a couple months.
Though I have forgiven myself, it is still maddening to me when I think of it.