For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.
-2 Corinthians 4:17, NIV
Weight training in equipment has provided a life lesson:
Pressing into the discomfort leads to joy afterwards!
When you have over 700lbs/317kg hanging over you, pressure starts building in the head with the weight coming down. It is truly uncomfortable. If one’s technique is off, the pressure can make you lose consciousness. This is why having a good spotting crew is important.
Lessons are there:
1. Life’s “heavy” situations like infidelity discovery and divorce are best faced and not avoided through denial.
It does not get better by ignoring the problem. Pressing through the pressure leads to MUCH better outcomes than trying to pretend the pressure and weight of the situation does not exist.
2. It takes a good “crew” surrounding us to get through heavy situations well and safely.
Do you have a crew around you right now? True friends who have your back? A good counselor who treats infidelity as abuse? A pastor who understands adultery is soul rape?
3. Take a deep breath and push through the divorce facing the reality that your marriage is dead. It does get better afterwards!
Divorcing Cheaters can be very painful. We are losing so much when our marriages end via the abusive choices of our (former) spouse. It is trauma compounding great losses.
Yet, I would encourage you to press through the discomfort. The only way to wholeness is by going through the pain. A good friend and a good pastor will help you see this. They will name the abuse for what it is and encourage you to stand up for yourself. You do not have to tolerate this contemptuous behavior (see Mt. 19:9).
Life gets MUCH better sans Cheater!
Eventually, the hyper-vigilance fades. You find a new normal. Hobbies return to your life. And for some of us, we meet another person who treats us the way we should have been treated.
