See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ.

-Colossians 2:8, NIV

I thought it was so reasonable…

…but it wasn’t. It was worldly wisdom.

My (now) ex-wife presented her “emotional affair” to me as simply a symptom of our marriage problems. She convinced me that I was the problem and not her cheating. Cheating was presented as simply what happens when your husband isn’t doing a better job in the marriage connecting.

She was (and is) a therapist. So, who was I to second guess such diagnostic “wisdom?”

My recommendation to a faithful spouse discovering their spouse cheated “emotionally” is to take it very seriously. Do NOT allow your Cheater to blame you for their cheating!

Allowing them to blame you for their cheating just feeds the contempt that they already have demonstrated towards you (and God).

The truth is cheating happens as a result of choices made by your Cheater–i.e. sinful ones. They decided to cultivate stolen intimacy. These were THEIR choices, not yours. Only your Cheater can choose otherwise in the future.

Worldly wisdom will have you chasing your tail about marriage conditions when the only place that has any hope of helping is fixing the chooser of the Cheater!