I took on way too much blame in my first marriage.

It was a symptom of my desire to “save” it. I was desperate to keep the relationship together. So, I would “confess” my sins to my (now) ex-wife in an effort to demonstrate that I would do better so that she’d stay.

What a waste of time that was!

And it was damaging to me. At the time, I thought the problem was me when I could have never fixed the situation.

Instead of directing that attention inward, I ought to have held the mirror up to my ex and refused to take responsibility for her cheating.

Her cheating was not “a cry for help.”

Her cheating was not “symptom” of marriage problems.

Her cheating was never my responsibility in the least.

Her cheating was her sin alone and her alone from which to repent.

Learn from my mistakes…

…don’t take on the marriage issues when dealing with a Cheater. They already feel entitled to treat you awful. Don’t help them.

Cheaters are the ones who need to engage in repentance and self-reflection!