“Telling” to Manipulate

Normally, a Cheater coming “clean” with what they did is a good sign that you have something to work with (if you so choose). Yet how they disclose is important and can completely invalidate that hope.

If your Cheater discloses and then launches into how you “drove them” to cheat, this is not repentance but rather manipulation!

They are putting you on notice that they felt entitled to cheat on you. Now, they might give all sort of reasons for why they feel so entitled. Don’t bother going down that rabbit hole with them.

The problem is they have believed the lie of entitlement:

No one is entitled to break their marriage vows of fidelity!

Another way to say this is that on one is justified in cheating. It is simply wrong. The Ten Commandments does not give any justification or “out” for committing adultery (Exodus 20:14). It just condemns it and commands us not to do it.