For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear.
-2 Timothy 4:3, NIV
Before discovery or even after discovery of an affair, you might experience instances where you are being attacked and present counter evidence to the awful label being applied to you. It bet it did not matter.
Cheaters are not looking for the truth but “justification” to discard you.
Accuser: “You’re dependent. The problem is that you’ve never learned to stand on your own financially.”
Faithful Spouse: “Actually, I supported us through our first year of marriage financially.”
Accuser: “Well, that doesn’t matter….”
OR
Accuser: “You’re abusive.”
Faithful Spouse: “Honestly, is that what my friends and family who know me think about me? Have you checked in with them?”
Accuser: “Well, you are just SO good at deceiving even your closest friends and family [Projection much?!]. They wouldn’t say anything bad about you.”
When Cheaters are talking about you in negative ways, it is a waste of energy to give them rational information contradicting their narrative. They don’t–and possibly can’t–hear it.
Cheaters have given their hearts over to the flesh and possibly the Prince of this World. They cannot discern truth anymore. Lies have become their native “tongue” (see John 8:43-44).
