God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day.
-Psalm 7:11, NKJV
Anger is a healthy, godly response to adultery.
I will say that again:
Anger is a healthy, godly response to adultery.
When we do not feel angry over such injustice and wickedness, something is seriously wrong with our walk with the Lord. He is angry at such sin.
That said, we need to eventually come to a place where we can lay down our anger. If we don’t, it will consume us.
We must NOT lay down our anger too soon, though!
Christians run into this error all the time. They want the anger to go away without dealing with the sins and injustice.
Faithful spouses need the anger to get out of dangerous situations. Anger is a gift from God for us in this.
Once safe, we can start working through that anger. We can hand our feelings of injustice and hurt over to God for Him to handle. This will likely take years.
What I have found is that the anger subsides eventually.
I am better able to see why I was angry and acknowledge it. By acknowledging it, I am honoring my heart and grieving the real loss. This is important for healing.
Another thing I have found, those people who wronged me matter less and less with time. This, too, helps with letting go of anger.
They become sad stories looking back on my life. Those actors become people who chose poorly and revealed serious character flaws.
All of this takes time (and some work). Plus, I would be more concerned about you if you never felt anger.
Precious DM……I think one of the reasons so many have a problem with anger or admitting they feel angry, is that anger and violence are often considered one and the same. As in, if you are angry, it ALWAYS leads you to commit a violent act. Not so! (you already knew that) I have even heard the two words used interchangeably.
We, instead, use our righteous anger as ‘rocket fuel’ to get us out of danger & to keep going as far away as possible.
After the need for that life-saving anger has past, then it will gradually fade. Though some lingering anger can still be a good thing – IMHO. Keeps one from ever again being a victim to such atrocity and helps us come to the aid of others in similar situations.
As you quoted above: “God is angry with the wicked…..” and so we should be, too