Adultery is soul rape. It is incredibly traumatizing. Imagine trying to figure out whether or not your life is about to end due to your spouse picking up a deadly sexually transmitted disease and passing it along to you (without your knowledge)–by the way, please get tested, faithful spouse, if you have not already! How … Continue reading “Adultery is traumatizing for the faithful spouse.”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Spiritual discipline of gratitude
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV As a hospice chaplain, I see many different sorts of people on a daily basis. Often times, my … Continue reading “Spiritual discipline of gratitude”
As they say, “The road to Hell is paved…”
“The road to Hell is paved… …with good intentions.” -A proverb This saying is a wise one to remember when dealing with the aftermath that comes following infidelity discovery. It applies both to the actual cheater and to those who profess they are only giving “care.” “I never intended to hurt you.” – Cheater … Continue reading “As they say, “The road to Hell is paved…””
When the other spouse is just “done”
But the people replied, “Don’t waste your breath. We will continue to live as we want to, stubbornly following our own evil desires.” -Jeremiah 18:12, NLT Letting go of a spouse is hard. This is true, in my experience, even if that spouse is a cheater. We married them, and it is a bitter pill … Continue reading “When the other spouse is just “done””
Brothers and Sisters, Hate evil!
Ye that love the Lord, hate evil: he preserveth the souls of his saints; he delivereth them out of the hand of the wicked. – Psalm 97:10, KJV Do you love the Lord? The command here in the Psalms is rather clear: Hate evil! It is strong language. But this is what Scripture teaches us. … Continue reading “Brothers and Sisters, Hate evil!”
Speaking partial truths is still speaking lies!
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV A partial truth is still a lie. Some of the greatest damage done in my … Continue reading “Speaking partial truths is still speaking lies!”
Weight and Money
When a husband is unemployed, his lack of funds is an easy target for cheaters to use as a “reason” to cheat and leave. When a wife is overweight, her weight is an easy target for cheaters to use as a “reason” to cheat and leave. On Weight and Money Rejections What bothers me greatly … Continue reading “Weight and Money”
How a church responds to their pastor’s divorce…
How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “How a church responds to their pastor’s divorce…”
Pro Tip: Not everyone is reasonable!
“Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.” -Servant to Abigail, I Samuel 25:17, NIV This verse comes from the story of David, Abigail, and Nabal recorded in I … Continue reading “Pro Tip: Not everyone is reasonable!”
Unfaithful Senior Pastor Resigns and Elmbrook Church Does Right By His Wife
Marital infidelity (and addiction) took down another prominent senior pastor. Jason Webb formerly the senior pastor to Elmbrook Church in Wisconsin resigned on September 19, 2018 due to his infidelities and unspecified addiction. While this is an awful situation for all involved, I applaud the church leadership for how they are handling the matter. They … Continue reading “Unfaithful Senior Pastor Resigns and Elmbrook Church Does Right By His Wife”