Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! -I Corinthians 6:15, NKJV When I explained how a cheater violates the soul of a faithful spouse as soul rape, I had a “Christian” psychologist retort to me: “What’s the … Continue reading “What is the Greek for “soul rape?””
Category: Trauma of adultery
“For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer” Vows
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “…for better, for worse…” These are familiar parts of the wedding vows in a Christian wedding ceremony. But do we really believe … Continue reading ““For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer” Vows”
Tullian Tchividjian and his brand of unbiblical “grace”
“If another believer sins, rebuke that person; then if there is repentance, forgive.” -Luke 17:3b, NLT Two former pastors and cheaters recently wrote a post pleading for the church to extend “grace” to morally fallen clergy. These two pastors are speaking from the perspective of fallen pastors themselves. Their names are Tullian Tchividjian–who admitted to an … Continue reading “Tullian Tchividjian and his brand of unbiblical “grace””
“Vengeance is mine,” says God
Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say,“I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord. -Romans 12:19, NLT What allows Christian victims to let go of the injustices they experienced? Is it a denial wrongs happened? No. Is it a minimization of the … Continue reading ““Vengeance is mine,” says God”
Money Power and Cheaters
Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable. Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment. -I Timothy 6:17, NLT Cheaters can be cruel. Money is just one leverage point cheaters use … Continue reading “Money Power and Cheaters”
Too Much at Stake to Sail Off!
So until I come, be diligent in devouring the Word of God, be faithful in prayer, and in teaching the believers. -I Timothy 4:13, TPT Too much is at stake to just sail off into my blessed sunset! I wish more faithful spouse pastors had not simply sailed off into their sunset prior to my … Continue reading “Too Much at Stake to Sail Off!”
My anxiety load is heavy enough!
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. -Galatians 6:2, NIV When dealing with infidelity discovery and divorce, no shortage of worries exist for the faithful spouse. The anxiety load is heavy! A word of advice for those wanting to truly help faithful spouses: Become aware of your … Continue reading “My anxiety load is heavy enough!”
Gender Role Idolatry – DM Thoughts on Pew Research
She wraps herself in strength, might, and power in all her works. -Proverbs 31:17, TPT Yesterday, I came across some fascinating research findings about our society. It comes from the Pew Research Center. The article is “Strong Men, Caring Women: How Americans describe what society values (and doesn’t) in each gender” by Kristi Walker, Kristen Bialik, and … Continue reading “Gender Role Idolatry – DM Thoughts on Pew Research”
God sends His “ravens”
Then the word of the Lord came to Elijah: “…You will drink from the brook, and I have directed the ravens to supply you with food there.” …The ravens brought him bread and meat in the morning and bread and meat in the evening, and he drank from the brook. -I Kings 17:2, 4, 6, NIV God sends His “ravens!” It … Continue reading “God sends His “ravens””
Choose empathy over pity for the divorced in church!
Divorcee:“I’m divorced.” Christian church-goer:“I’m sorry. That’s too bad.” Sometimes, it is easy to feel like one has a scarlet “D” tattooed to one’s backside. Do I have to justify my divorce to every Christian to whom I reveal my marital status? I know some of us do not struggle with this. Some people seem … Continue reading “Choose empathy over pity for the divorced in church!”