If God doesn’t discipline you as he does all of his children, it means that you are illegitimate and are not really his children at all. -Hebrews 12:8, NLT Cheaters and the Absence of God’s Discipline Faithful spouses–present company included–struggle when we watch our cheaters seem to not miss a beat in their lives experiencing … Continue reading “Cheaters and the Absence of God’s Discipline”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Blake Shelton, Miranda Lambert, and AWFUL “Christian” Infidelity Advice!
Country music star, Blake Shelton, made news recently with a tweet throwing shade at Miranda Lambert, his ex-wife. He tweeted: Been taking the high road for a long time.. I almost gave up. But I can finally see something on the horizon up there!! Wait!! Could it be?! Yep!! It’s karma!! 6:58 AM – 25 … Continue reading “Blake Shelton, Miranda Lambert, and AWFUL “Christian” Infidelity Advice!”
Divorce Minister Blog Vision
…fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. – Hebrews 12:2, NIV Why create the blog “Divorce Minister?” Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is a ministry born … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Blog Vision”
Polygamy in the Bible and Cheaters
He [King Solomon] had 700 wives of royal birth and 300 concubines. And in fact, they did turn his heart away from the LORD. -I Kings 11:3, NLT An overseer, then, must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, temperate, prudent, respectable, hospitable, able to teach…. -I Timothy 3:2, NASB [emphasis mine] What about all that polygamy in … Continue reading “Polygamy in the Bible and Cheaters”
Cheater-speak: “Against you alone, God, have I sinned!”
Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight; so you are right in your verdict and justified when you judge. -Psalm 51:4, NIV This verse comes after Nathan, the prophet, confronts King David over his adultery with–really sexual exploitation of–Bathsheba. Part of that confrontation included some rather harsh … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “Against you alone, God, have I sinned!””
Abused and Manipulated.
Rescue me, Lord, from evildoers; protect me from the violent, who devise evil plans in their hearts and stir up war every day. They make their tongues as sharp as a serpent’s; the poison of vipers is on their lips. -Psalm 140:1-3, NIV Cheaters know what they are doing. -They lie to avoid giving the faithful spouse the power that … Continue reading “Abused and Manipulated.”
Cheaters are capable.
There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, But the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NASB Cheaters are capable of all sorts of evil in the effort to cover their sins. Pastors and other Christians need to become less naive on that matter. Cheaters are like addicts. They … Continue reading “Cheaters are capable.”
Still tough to tell.
When I open up to someone about what happened to me with my first marriage’s demise, I have found I still get upset if I share the full story. I have to fight the internal judge telling me that I “should” be detached in such recounting. I struggle to fight off the internal condemning voice … Continue reading “Still tough to tell.”
Fools and Foolish Arguments.
Don’t answer the foolish arguments of fools, or you will become as foolish as they are. -Proverbs 26:4, NLT If someone is not willing to listen, save your breath. They have made up their mind, and you are best moving on. You do not need to stick your head into that mind-blender. Move on. Let … Continue reading “Fools and Foolish Arguments.”
Be still and RELAX!
“Be still, and know that I am God!” – Psalm 46:10a, NLT When I was in the shock stage, I often found myself drawing a warm bath with lavender bath salts to ease my stress. I would play worship music to encourage my soul as I soaked in the tub before or after I went … Continue reading “Be still and RELAX!”