“For I, the LORD, love justice. I hate robbery and wrongdoing. I will faithfully reward my people for their suffering and make an everlasting covenant with them.” -Isaiah 61:8, NLT When I was going through my ecclesiastical trial to keep my ministerial credentials, the question was raised over why my former denomination was so fixated … Continue reading “Divorce: Assigning blame, why bother?”
Category: Trauma of adultery
NOT the Christian Answer to Who Is Responsible for Cheating!
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad. -I Corinthians 5:10, KJV When caught in marital infidelity, the Christian response to such actions is not to claim the devil or one’s … Continue reading “NOT the Christian Answer to Who Is Responsible for Cheating!”
Josh Duggar Saga: Blaming External Forces Isn’t Repentance
I hearkened and heard, but they spake not aright: no man repented him of his wickedness, saying, What have I done? every one turned to his course, as the horse rusheth into the battle. -Jeremiah 8:6, KJV News is flying that Joshua Duggar may be coming back to TLC. It is reported from a source … Continue reading “Josh Duggar Saga: Blaming External Forces Isn’t Repentance”
Signs of Real Repentance
And Zacchaeus stood, and said unto the Lord; “Behold, Lord, the half of my goods I give to the poor; and if I have taken any thing from any man by false accusation, I restore him fourfold.” -Luke 19:8, KJV (quotation marks added) So, you think your cheater has hit rock bottom and is truly … Continue reading “Signs of Real Repentance”
Regarding Advice Coming From Cheater’s Family
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” -Matthew 7:5, NIV Some in-laws are truly godly and wise people who would never dream of giving critical advice to the victim of their family member’s adulterous betrayal(s). However, my personal … Continue reading “Regarding Advice Coming From Cheater’s Family”
Cheater-speak: “But I never intended to hurt you!”
“Sure, I cheated. But I never intended to hurt you.” -Cheater “Good” intentions do not magically make STDs go away. “Good” intentions do not magically make stolen money spent on OW/OM reappear. “Good” intentions do not magically make adultery okay. I chalk the “But I never intended to hurt you” sort of statement up to … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “But I never intended to hurt you!””
Contagion of Courtship Craze
If a man vow a vow unto the Lord, or swear an oath to bind his soul with a bond; he shall not break his word, he shall do according to all that proceedeth out of his mouth…. And if she had at all an husband, when she vowed, or uttered ought out of her lips, … Continue reading “Contagion of Courtship Craze”
“Don’t throw away your marriage” advice
And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. -Leviticus 20:10, KJV “Don’t throw away your marriage over this,” the well-meaning pastor tells the sobbing faithful spouse upon discovery of the adulterous double life … Continue reading ““Don’t throw away your marriage” advice”
True Repentance: It’s Obvious!
“What happens with leaders often in these situations is that they give you one paragraph of acknowledgement of wrong, and 6 paragraphs of how they are a victim. If I’m counselling an adulterous man, and he sits in front of me and all he talks about is his wife, I know that man is far … Continue reading “True Repentance: It’s Obvious!”
“Why Not Be Wronged?” Wrongful Mindset
The very fact that you have lawsuits among you means you have been completely defeated already. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be cheated? -I Corinthians 6:7, NIV Any application of this Scripture as a way to hide and absolve a cheater is a gross misapplication of this text. In just two verses … Continue reading ““Why Not Be Wronged?” Wrongful Mindset”