They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. Jeremiah 6:14, NIV Unconditional forgiveness pushers are like the people mentioned here in Jeremiah 6:14 treating gaping wounds with boo-boo kisses. Either they do not know the first thing about dealing with the … Continue reading “Flaky Forgiveness Trivializes Trauma!”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Is God’s Forgiveness Unconditional?
Now when they heard this, they were pricked in their heart, and said unto Peter and to the rest of the apostles, “Men and brethren, what shall we do?” Then Peter said unto them, “Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye … Continue reading “Is God’s Forgiveness Unconditional?”
Cheater-speak: “I believe it was always a lie.”
“I’ve come to realization that our marriage has always been a lie.” – Cheater This sort of statement serves the cheater on multiple fronts: First, it allows him or her to cast themselves as the noble person who is choosing “authenticity” by ending the marriage. They are the “hero” bravely fighting off “inauthenticity” by exiting … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I believe it was always a lie.””
Forgiveness Does Not Change Facts!
It still feels strange for me to even speak about how my first marriage ended. I feel internal pressure and accusation as if speaking the facts means I have not forgiven her or am bitter. That’s a lie, by the way. But it is a hard one to shake growing up amidst a Christian … Continue reading “Forgiveness Does Not Change Facts!”
When it is not up to you…
“Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing.” -Matthew 23:37, NIV An injustice faithful spouses experience when divorce is on the table is being blamed for … Continue reading “When it is not up to you…”
God loves adultery victims, too!
“Jesus is “‘the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone.’” -Acts 4:11, NIV God loves thieves. True. God loves rapists. True. God loves adulterers and adulteresses. True. But does God love their victims? Does God love the robbed? Does God love the raped? Does God love adultery victims? I know God does. He identifies as one … Continue reading “God loves adultery victims, too!”
Cheater Marriage History Brain-Blender
Telling lies about others is as harmful as hitting them with an ax, wounding them with a sword, or shooting them with a sharp arrow. -Proverbs 25:18, NLT One of the many things that baffles me about the accepted Christian “wisdom” on healing marriages ravaged by adultery is how often pastors and counselors seem to … Continue reading “Cheater Marriage History Brain-Blender”
“You are saying bad things about me!”
“You are saying bad things about me!” – Cheater My cheater was very upset when she discovered this blog. She was so upset that she hired a lawyer and attempted to shut it down (or at least, she attempted to shut down any conversation about her infidelity). Her claims via her lawyer were that it was libel … Continue reading ““You are saying bad things about me!””
Privileged To Be In Pastor’s Office And NOT Court Room!
This is what the Lord says: “Was your mother sent away because I divorced her? Did I sell you as slaves to my creditors? No, you were sold because of your sins. And your mother, too, was taken because of your sins. -Isaiah 50:1, NLT A major reason cheaters feel entitled to put faithful spouses … Continue reading “Privileged To Be In Pastor’s Office And NOT Court Room!”
Entitled and Arrogant!
Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy? But he giveth more grace. Wherefore … Continue reading “Entitled and Arrogant!”