“I just needed a break.” I wonder how many who come here experienced their cheater instituting “a break” from their marriage. My (now) ex-wife took her own “break.” She went on a trip to Europe alone and removed her wedding ring on this trip. I have the pictures to prove it. When I pointed this out … Continue reading “No Such Thing As “A Break” in Marriage”
Category: Trauma of adultery
When Dating Again…
When I felt ready to date again following my divorce, I remember it being an exciting and terrifying time. Exciting: It was exciting to start thinking about a new beginning with someone who would love me for me. I went the route of online dating and was enjoying the interest I was gardnering from the opposite … Continue reading “When Dating Again…”
Pastors, All sins are not equal.
And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. – Leviticus 20:10, KJV Not all sins in a marriage are acceptable to God as worthy of ending a marriage (e.g. Mt 5:32). Not all … Continue reading “Pastors, All sins are not equal.”
Animals Have More Character
“Four things on earth are small, yet they are extremely wise: Ants are creatures of little strength, yet they store up their food in the summer; hyraxes are creatures of little power, yet they make their home in the crags; locusts have no king, yet they advance together in ranks; a lizard can be caught … Continue reading “Animals Have More Character”
Not a Private Affair
And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy … Continue reading “Not a Private Affair”
Mate Date Nonsense
Excuses might be found for a thief who steals because he is starving. But if he is caught, he must pay back seven times what he stole, even if he has to sell everything in his house. -Proverbs 6:30-31, NLT Dating your spouse. It is not that I am against having one-on-one romantic evenings or … Continue reading “Mate Date Nonsense”
That Liberal Manefesto On Adultery and Divorce, aka WCF 1646
Adultery or fornication, committed after a contract, being detected before marriage, giveth just occasion to the innocent party to dissolve that contract. In the case of adultery after marriage, it is lawful for the innocent party to sue out a divorce, and after the divorce to marry another, as if the offending party were dead. … Continue reading “That Liberal Manefesto On Adultery and Divorce, aka WCF 1646”
Mailbag: My husband is a cheating pastor, and I am at a loss.
twitching wrote, My husband is a senior pastor in a Presbyterian (PCUSA) church. He has been having an affair for at least 2 years with a woman in our former church, about 10 hours by car away. I told 2 elders and they have done nothing but keep his secret. Meanwhile, I left and am … Continue reading “Mailbag: My husband is a cheating pastor, and I am at a loss.”
Janet Mefferd On Pastor Tullian Tchividjian’s Adulterous Fall
Janet Mefferd is a former news reporter who comes from the Christian broadcasting field (more info here). She confronted Pastor Mark Driscoll for his alleged plagarism in November 2013 and was roundly criticized for such a direct confrontation. Some disagree over how that interview was handled, and she even apologized for doing it, but my … Continue reading “Janet Mefferd On Pastor Tullian Tchividjian’s Adulterous Fall”
No matter how much you care…
…you don’t get to choose repentance for them. “But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve….But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” – Joshua 24:15a,c, NIV I remember sitting in a sermon series with a pastor–i.e. Pastor Dom of … Continue reading “No matter how much you care…”