Nothing can heal you; your wound is fatal. All who hear the news about you clap their hands at your fall, for who has not felt your endless cruelty? -Nahum 3:19, NIV (About Assyria) I continue to be astounded by how cruel humans can be to other humans. Stories I hear and experiences I have … Continue reading “Cheaters Are SO Cruel!”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Mailbag: Can Christians Still Go To Hell If They Sin After Asking For Forgiveness?
M wrote: I came here looking for answers to an issue I have had with a cheating ex and why God continues to bless him with the girl he cheated on me with, as well as he has cheated on her, too and she knows nothing about any of it. I came here for advice … Continue reading “Mailbag: Can Christians Still Go To Hell If They Sin After Asking For Forgiveness?”
Primary Issue Is The Adulterous Spouse
The mouth of an adulterous woman is a deep pit; a man who is under the Lord’s wrath falls into it. -Proverbs 22:14, NIV While the Other Man (OM) does not escape censure in this verse, I find it fascinating to see the ancient wisdom of the Bible pointing to the adulterous woman as the … Continue reading “Primary Issue Is The Adulterous Spouse”
God’s Forgiveness Is Great But What About Adultery Victim Care?
Learn to do good. Seek justice. Help the oppressed. Defend the cause of orphans. Fight for the rights of widows. -Isaiah 1:17, NLT An observation I’ve noticed is how evangelicals are quick to point to God’s forgiveness for adulterers and adulteresses while totally ignoring their victims. It as as if faithful spouses do not exist … Continue reading “God’s Forgiveness Is Great But What About Adultery Victim Care?”
The Oblivious Ones
So watch yourselves. “If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them. – Luke 17:3, NIV If you have survived discovering infidelity and/or gone through divorce, you will inevitably encounter “well-meaning” but oblivious Christians. They may even be related to you by blood. These are the sort of … Continue reading “The Oblivious Ones”
“Monogamy is unnatural.”
A reader of Divorce Minister wrote in asking for me to tackle the old saw that “monogamy is unnatural.” It did not take me long to think of an old Steven Curtis Chapman song addressing such a fatalistic, naturalistic stance: You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though … Continue reading ““Monogamy is unnatural.””
Was Jesus “Damaged Goods”?
Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. -Isaiah 53:4-5, KJV Satan is not … Continue reading “Was Jesus “Damaged Goods”?”
Top 5 DM Blog Posts of 2015
Top Five DM Blog Posts For 2015 This past year has been a busy year on Divorce Minister. It marks the first full calendar year that Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously has exited. Below is a countdown of my top five visited stories for 2015 (only counting posts written this year). These posts received hundreds … Continue reading “Top 5 DM Blog Posts of 2015”
Divorce Minister: A Divorce-Positive Resource For Evangelicals
But in your great mercy you did not put an end to them or abandon them, for you are a gracious and merciful God. -Nehemiah 9:31, NIV What do I mean by a “divorce-positive” resource for evangelicals? -Do I mean divorce is the answer to all marital problems? No. -Do I mean divorce is a … Continue reading “Divorce Minister: A Divorce-Positive Resource For Evangelicals”
Bargaining When Leaving Is The Better Option
Now the Lord said to Samuel, “How long will you mourn for Saul, seeing I have rejected him from reigning over Israel? Fill your horn with oil, and go; I am sending you to Jesse the Bethlehemite. For I have provided Myself a king among his sons.” -I Samuel 16:1, NKJV I can still remember … Continue reading “Bargaining When Leaving Is The Better Option”