If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. – Deuteronomy 22:22, NIV “Silence in the face of evil is itself evil: God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not … Continue reading “No More Silence From the Pulpit On Adultery”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Ministering Music
When I was in the darkest valley of sorrow and pain, I found songs of truth to soothe my hurting soul. Some were contemporary songs. But many were old hymns filled with rich lyrics written by people who shared with the world the truth of Scripture hardened like a diamond by their own personal suffering. … Continue reading “Ministering Music”
Forgiving Adultery
Forgiveness is hard. But we are called to forgive our brother and sister. Jesus tells us to do so. And he tells us to do so from our hearts. In illustrating this point, Jesus gives us “The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant” in Matthew 18:21-35. Essentially, it is a story about how a servant owes … Continue reading “Forgiving Adultery”
Has God really forgiven him even when he is still in adultery?
David, thank you so much for your words. I had been programed for twenty years to believe that my stbxh was a Christian, honorable, wise, trustworthy and safe man. Then he left me out of the blue and a month later I found out he was having an affair and that he had been cheating with … Continue reading “Has God really forgiven him even when he is still in adultery?”
I hate the movie “Fireproof”
For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and will look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear. – 2 Timothy 4:3, NLT About five years ago, a major marital craze went through the American, … Continue reading “I hate the movie “Fireproof””
Adultery: A Bigger Problem Than Just One Sexual Act
“‘But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this is what defiles. For out of the heart come evil intentions, murder, adultery, fornication, theft, false witness, slander. These are what defile a person….’” – Jesus in Matthew 15:18-20a, NSRV. While one act of adultery is horrible enough, I suspect many outsiders fail … Continue reading “Adultery: A Bigger Problem Than Just One Sexual Act”
When do I forgive?
I understand. I guess what I’m asking is: When do I forgive? As time moves on, as it apparently has in your case, when do we forgive and move on? It seems the sin will never be acknowledged. Or, in other cases, it can not be … in the case of death of the offender, … Continue reading “When do I forgive?”
“Emotional Affairs” and Dr. Phil
After I learned of my former spouse’s infidelity, I discovered these old videos from a Dr. Phil session on emotional affairs aired in 2009. Last night, I watched them again with Mrs. DM, and we both agreed they are worth posting on the blog. While I do not endorse everything Dr. Phil writes and says, … Continue reading ““Emotional Affairs” and Dr. Phil”
Does God Give Permission To Sin?
Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be … Continue reading “Does God Give Permission To Sin?”
When Pastors Are Caught…***UPDATE***
***UPDATE*** this is a continuation of the post entitled “When Pastors Are Caught…” Since I wrote my last post on the situation at Quest Community Church, developments have occurred. Both pastors were fired. Official statement here. Below is the pertinent sentence: This past Thursday, September 11, after the deliberation and counsel of the Christian & … Continue reading “When Pastors Are Caught…***UPDATE***”