People do not despise a thief if he steals to satisfy his hunger when he is starving. Yet if he is caught, he must pay sevenfold, though it costs him all the wealth of his house. -Proverbs 6:30-31, NIV These verses about a hungry thief stealing are in the midst of the passage warning the … Continue reading “Looking For Marriage Deficiencies Is “Barking Up Wrong Tree!””
Category: Trauma of adultery
Sometimes You Need A Wake-up Whack!
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. -Proverbs 27:6, NIV I was incredibly naive prior to experiencing my first wife’s adultery and abandonment. Very naive! And I am thankful for the friends God put in my path who gave me the proverbial “wake-up whack” when I needed it. While being blunt, … Continue reading “Sometimes You Need A Wake-up Whack!”
Agency & Advisors After Adultery Discovery
I saw the dead, both great and small, standing before God’s throne. And the books were opened, including the Book of Life. And the dead were judged according to what they had done, as recorded in the books. – Rev. 20:12, NLT This past week I viewed a YouTube video of a former megachurch pastor … Continue reading “Agency & Advisors After Adultery Discovery”
Betrayed With A Kiss
Now the betrayer had given them a sign, saying, “The one I will kiss is the man. Seize him and lead him away under guard.” And when he came, he went up to him at once and said, “Rabbi!” And he kissed him. -Mark 14:44-45, ESV Three Years. That’s the time Judas spent eating with, … Continue reading “Betrayed With A Kiss”
Gotta Ask Yourself: Why did she HAVE TO leave?
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. – I Corinthians 7:10, NIV While a marriage is falling apart or actively being destroyed as it is with infidelity, it is easy to be caught in a fog. Your rational mind may not be able … Continue reading “Gotta Ask Yourself: Why did she HAVE TO leave?”
Adulterous Assault of Masculinity and Feminity
When adultery or infidelity takes place, lies are seeded into the hearts of the faithful spouses. Or they are attempted to be seeded. These are nasty things. They attack the worth and well-being of the victim of this heinous sin. The lies attempt to steal even more from the faithful spouse whose soul has just … Continue reading “Adulterous Assault of Masculinity and Feminity”
Lies Like Sword Wounds
Like a club or a sword or a sharp arrow is one who gives false testimony against a neighbor. Proverbs 25:18, NIV The lies. Lies attacking the faithful spouse’s character. Lies designed to destroy worth and humiliate. Lies hiding the true marital history. Lies manipulating counselors/pastors against the faithful spouse. Lies Lies. Lies. They are … Continue reading “Lies Like Sword Wounds”
Defending the Vulnerable!
“How long will you defend the unjust and show partiality to the wicked? Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed. Rescue the weak and the needy; deliver them from the hand of the wicked. -Psalm 82:2-4, NIV It is not a level playing field when adultery is discovered. … Continue reading “Defending the Vulnerable!”
When Supporting Divorce Is Viewed As Worse Than…
Today, I am responding to an write-in article posted on RELEVANT Magazine. This is an explicitly cutting edge evangelical Christian magazine designed to engage culture from a Biblical Christian perspective. Here is the link to the article: I’m Getting Divorced. Why Won’t My Church Help Me? | RELEVANT Magazine. This exchange between a man, Marc, and … Continue reading “When Supporting Divorce Is Viewed As Worse Than…”
Truth as Punishment
“But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.”-Matthew 12:36-37, NIV When reconstructing one’s narrative, truth can be both freeing and punishing. It is punishing … Continue reading “Truth as Punishment”