A few months back, an article appeared in a cutting-edge, evangelical Christian magazine. This article was inspired by a write-in request from a woman, Laurie, who was both the divorced faithful spouse and later the other woman in an adulterous relationship with a married man. She was writing into the magazine for advice how to … Continue reading “My Thoughts On OW Pastoral Exchange On RELEVANT Magazine Online”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Being Abandoned And Still Shamed for the Divorce
“For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.” – Malachi 2:16, ESV Some of us have had the double-whammy of having our former spouse both … Continue reading “Being Abandoned And Still Shamed for the Divorce”
Dear Divorce Minister…Please help me to create some clarity in this mess.
Dear Divorce Minister, I moved to Africa 8 years ago to join my African husband (married 6 yrs, no children). There was no way he would have moved in my direction as he was passionate about his job in Africa. I accepted that and gave up my job, house & country with friends and … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister…Please help me to create some clarity in this mess.”
Anti-Divorce Focus Is Lazy Pastoring
Let’s be honest here: It is easier to identify people who are divorced than people who are committing adultery. Adulterous spouses are notorious for hiding their cheating ways with various levels of success. However, with a divorce, a public stance is made. The marriage relationship is officially over in the eyes of the state. And … Continue reading “Anti-Divorce Focus Is Lazy Pastoring”
Mailbag: What To Do?
Danabern7 wrote, I would like you and your wife’s advice on my situation . Husband cheated on me in an affair for sure 15 yrs. ago . About 4 yrs. ago I found text messages to him and a married co- worker calling her “baby” and that’s my girl”. When I threatened to call her … Continue reading “Mailbag: What To Do?”
Wrathful God
5 You can be sure that no immoral, impure, or greedy person will inherit the Kingdom of Christ and of God. For a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world. 6 Don’t be fooled by those who try to excuse these sins, for the anger of God will fall on all who disobey … Continue reading “Wrathful God”
Wilting Daisies Or Bruised Reeds Cheaters Are NOT!
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. – I Corinthians 13:11, NIV Let’s get something straight: A crushed “delicate flower” or a “bruised reed” does not have the energy … Continue reading “Wilting Daisies Or Bruised Reeds Cheaters Are NOT!”
Exposing the Ugly Truth
Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. – Ephesians 5:11, ESV In a world where extramarital sex is glorified and the bar-hoping swinger is idolized on Rom-Com, prime-time TV, the Church is fighting an uphill battle against adultery. And it is losing. I think I can almost hear Satan … Continue reading “Exposing the Ugly Truth”
The Christmas Story Instructing Us On Adultery And Divorce
Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit. And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly. – Matthew … Continue reading “The Christmas Story Instructing Us On Adultery And Divorce”
Let’s Hate What God Hates
There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict in the community. – Proverbs 6:16-19, NIV To have heart of God … Continue reading “Let’s Hate What God Hates”