Then the Lord said to Moses, “Phinehas (son of Eleazar and grandson of Aaron the priest) has turned away my anger for he was angry with my anger, and would not tolerate the worship of any God but me. So I have stopped destroying all Israel as I had intended.” -Numbers 25:10-11, TLB Anger is … Continue reading “God Wants Passionate Pastors”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Evangelical Divorce Blame-Game
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord… Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…. -Ephesians 5:22,25, NIV I’m going to be transparent here: This passage from Ephesians 5 bothers me. It does not bother me that it is in the Bible. I thank God … Continue reading “Evangelical Divorce Blame-Game”
Helping A Shattered Spouse
A Christian brother comes over one night. He crumples onto your couch tears overflowing. Through his heaving sobs, you learn his wife has left him and is having sex with another man. The hollow and desperate look in his eyes tears at your heart. What can you do? I will start with the negative first. These dangerous responses … Continue reading “Helping A Shattered Spouse”
Mailbag: I am cheating with a married man who is my pastor. [UPDATED]
SB wrote in a comment, I am cheating with a married man who is my pastor. I am a wrenched woman, I know I am wrong and am in sin. After reading several of your blogs, I need your help to end the affair the Godly way. I am not afraid of the consequences because … Continue reading “Mailbag: I am cheating with a married man who is my pastor. [UPDATED]”
Exercise, Exercise, Exercise
WE ARE EMBODIED CREATURES We are all individuals. As such, we all respond to stress differently. I remember losing ten pounds in two weeks after discovering the damning evidence of my (then) spouse’s sexual union with another man. It was shocking to say the least. And I lost my appetite to put it mildly. Self … Continue reading “Exercise, Exercise, Exercise”
The Happiness Narrative
I ran across an article on huffingtonpost.com published yesterday by an admitted adulteress. At least, she admits to cheating on her-then-husband. Here’s the link to the article: My Husband Learned The Hard Way Why Women Cheat | YourTango. Marina Pearson, the author, actually has some good points in what she writes. I agree with her statement about her … Continue reading “The Happiness Narrative”
Performance Spells D-E-A-T-H To Marriage
There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love. – I John 4:18, ESV This past weekend I was at a married men’s retreat with men from my home church. At such an event, I sometimes … Continue reading “Performance Spells D-E-A-T-H To Marriage”
Adultery Helps Marriages Is An Old Lie
And why not do evil that good may come?—as some people slanderously charge us with saying. Their condemnation is just. – Romans 3:8, ESV If you are at all like me, this seems like a strange argument for the Apostle Paul to be addressing in his letter to the Romans. However, my eyes were open … Continue reading “Adultery Helps Marriages Is An Old Lie”
Mailbag: If you have wronged someone you should seek to make amends to that person?
Another comment I am answering for today’s post: DM, Thank you for your encouragement. It has given me strength along with other Christ centered people around me to see my X Husband for who he really is. So 14 months post d’Day and my Ex stated to me today that he has moved on (with … Continue reading “Mailbag: If you have wronged someone you should seek to make amends to that person?”
The Awful Truth
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. -Proverbs 27:6, NIV Knowing the truth is freeing. But this is often denied faithful spouses as their world is caved in by the terrors of trickling truth and horrors of betrayals both large and small. I can still vividly remember feeling the shock. … Continue reading “The Awful Truth”