“It Takes Two To Tango” I wonder how many here heard this faux wisdom following the discovery of adultery and subsequent divorce. It really is just another iteration of “The Shared Responsibility Lie.” And it comes across as “wise” while being incredible hurtful to someone who has just survived adultery (aka soul rape). It is hurtful for … Continue reading ““It Takes Two To Tango””
Category: Trauma of adultery
Pre-Pigsty Prodigal or Post-Pigsty Prodigal…Continued
More Lessons from “The Parable of the Prodigal Son” My post yesterday drew lessons from “The Parable of the Prodigal Son” found in Luke 15:11-32 regarding discerning whether or not one’s adulterous spouse is exhibiting the behavior exhibited by the prodigal son post-pigsty (click here to view post). This post is a continuation of that … Continue reading “Pre-Pigsty Prodigal or Post-Pigsty Prodigal…Continued”
Pre-Pigsty Prodigal OR Post-Pigsty Prodigal?
Lessons from “The Parable of the Prodigal Son” In Luke 15:11-32, we have the famous parable about the prodigal son. It is a story with two sons and a father who welcomes the younger son back after he wasted his inheritance on “wild living” (Luke 15:13b, NIV). This story lives in our pop culture when … Continue reading “Pre-Pigsty Prodigal OR Post-Pigsty Prodigal?”
Top Evangelical Misconceptions About Adultery And Divorce
What Are Top Evangelical Misconceptions About Adultery And Divorce? When I shared my blog with a Catholic professional peer of mine, this was his question for me. He named the biggest one as he saw it for Catholic laity. He explained many think divorce is what cuts people off from good-standing in the Catholic Church. … Continue reading “Top Evangelical Misconceptions About Adultery And Divorce”
Of Flames And Floods
“When you go through deep waters, I will be with you. When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown. When you walk through the fire of oppression, you will not be burned up; the flames will not consume you. For I am the Lord, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your … Continue reading “Of Flames And Floods”
Re: “The Wrong Thing That Was Right”
Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. – Romans 1:24-25, ESV (emphasis mine) Chump Lady sent … Continue reading “Re: “The Wrong Thing That Was Right””
Is Adultery the Unpardonable Sin?
“If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you withhold forgiveness from any, it is withheld.” -Jesus to the Disciples, John 20:23, ESV Is Adultery the Unpardonable Sin? Short answer: No. Adultery is pardonable. But an awful sin has happened that needs pardoning.* What does obtaining a pardon mean? Pardon in … Continue reading “Is Adultery the Unpardonable Sin?”
“The Exit Affair” Nonsense
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. – Hebrews 13:4, ESV When you are drowning, you often go to desperate measures to stay afloat. I am a knowledge junkie. So, I turned to reading to improve myself as … Continue reading ““The Exit Affair” Nonsense”
Projection much?!
“Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves.” -Mt 10:16, ESV I remember early in the dissolution of my first marriage feeling confused after I had a conversation with my (now) ex-wife. As I remember this conversation, she had accused me … Continue reading “Projection much?!”
“There’s Always Two Sides To A Story”
The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him. -Proverbs 18:17, ESV An evildoer listens to wicked lips, and a liar gives ear to a mischievous tongue. -Proverbs 17:4, ESV “There’s always two sides to a story.” I wonder how many who come here have heard that statement … Continue reading ““There’s Always Two Sides To A Story””