“See, it is I who created the blacksmith who fans the coals into flame and forges a weapon fit for its work. And it is I who have created the destroyer to wreak havoc; no weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. -Isaiah 54:16-17a, NIV Words matter. Words can minimize. … Continue reading “Words matter, words can minimize”
Category: Cheating
Simple Commandment
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV I wonder how this simple and clear commandment has become second fiddle to couples’ counseling “wisdom” for so many pastors. So much time goes into the “why” of the cheating and little time is spent on pointing out the willful nature of the sin. In other words, … Continue reading “Simple Commandment”
The gut knows
This morning I was watching a reel on my phone. In this reel, a man called into a show and shared about his troubled marriage. He talked about how his wife had an “emotional affair.” The host and the caller go back and forth about what he should have done as a husband. Then the … Continue reading “The gut knows”
Gratitude guards your heart
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV As a hospice chaplain*, I see many different sorts of people on a daily basis. Often times, my … Continue reading “Gratitude guards your heart”
Power Struggle, not a marriage
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. -Ephesians 5:21, NIV I am convinced some Cheaters treat marriage issues as power struggles. They refuse to submit to their spouse as they find it offensive to actually “lose” in any way. To them, the idea of humbling themselves and truly repenting is repulsive. They act allergic … Continue reading “Power Struggle, not a marriage”
The road is paved
“The road to Hell is paved… …with good intentions.” -A proverb This saying is a wise one to remember when dealing with the aftermath that comes following infidelity discovery. It applies both to the actual cheater and to those who profess they are only giving “care.” “I never intended to hurt you.” – Cheater … Continue reading “The road is paved”
Hating evil
Ye that love the Lord, hate evil: he preserveth the souls of his saints; he delivereth them out of the hand of the wicked. – Psalm 97:10, KJV Do you love the Lord? The command here in the Psalms is rather clear: Hate evil! It is strong language. But this is what Scripture teaches us. … Continue reading “Hating evil”
Reminder: A partial truth is still fully a lie.
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV Public Service Announcement (PSA): A partial truth is still a lie. Some of the greatest … Continue reading “Reminder: A partial truth is still fully a lie.”
Cheater: Pharisee or Enemy?
And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. -Matthew 5:41, NKJV In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness. -Matthew 23:28, NIV When dealing with a “Christian” cheater, another level of complexity is placed on Christians … Continue reading “Cheater: Pharisee or Enemy?”
Cheaters Remarrying
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Does God permit Cheaters to remarry after divorcing their faithful partner? The simple answer is “No.” Yet Cheaters DO remarry, which should not surprise us. They already demonstrated their … Continue reading “Cheaters Remarrying”