“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NKJV Does it make it any less sinful to cheat if the marriage is troubled? The correct answer to this is “No.” Adultery is adultery. Sin is sin. Circumstances around the sin do not matter as far as determining if the behavior is sin or not. I see … Continue reading ““Exit Affair” Minimizing Label”
Category: Cheating
My Divorce Lawyer, NOT “Faith-Based” Thankfully!
When I got divorced years ago, I had a good divorce lawyer. In fact, she was probably the clearest-eyed professional in the whole thing. It was a flat fee sort of thing. Looking back, I am grateful that somehow I found this lawyer seeing how divorce attorneys can be very expensive. Now, we had a … Continue reading “My Divorce Lawyer, NOT “Faith-Based” Thankfully!”
Philip Yancey Confesses Near Decade Affair
To my great shame, I confess that for eight years I willfully engaged in a sinful affair with a married woman. My conduct defied everything that I believe about marriage. It was also totally inconsistent with my faith and my writings and caused deep pain for her husband and both of our families. -Philip Yancey … Continue reading “Philip Yancey Confesses Near Decade Affair”
Late Blooming Rebellion
A theory I have about some cheaters is that they are simply behaving like adolescents who never felt free to rebel against authoritarian parents. Maybe they were always the “good girl” or “good boy” in the family to keep the peace? Then they grew up and married; however, they never really discovered what they believed as they … Continue reading “Late Blooming Rebellion”
Divorcing in order to remarry
11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.” -Mark 10:11-12, NLT Without doubt, someone who divorces their spouse in order to obtain another is clearly committing adultery in God’s eyes. That is not to say all … Continue reading “Divorcing in order to remarry”
“Talking about that triggers my toxic shame.”
“Talking about that triggers my toxic shame. So, let’s talk about something else,” says Cheater. Anguish over the awful things they did may very well be real. And they need to go through it to heal the matter, NOT avoid it. Honestly, Cheaters talking about toxic shame are often using it as excuse to avoid … Continue reading ““Talking about that triggers my toxic shame.””
Actions Over Words
They say they’re sorry…. …but refuse to cut off contact with their affair partner. I am sorry to tell you that they are NOT truly sorry. Their actions betray the truth. They are sorry that they were caught! They say they want an open and honest relationship… …yet they continue to lie to you and … Continue reading “Actions Over Words”
Demons and Cheating
Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. -I Peter 5:8, NKJV When I speak of the demonic and cheating, I want to be clear. I do NOT believe or support the idea of a cheater being a mere victim of the demonic. … Continue reading “Demons and Cheating”
(Good) New Things Coming!
18 Remember ye not the former things, neither consider the things of old. 19 Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert. -Isaiah 43:18-19, KJV I love history. Maybe that love of the past … Continue reading “(Good) New Things Coming!”
Nothing YOU Can Do
For everyone belongs to me, the parent as well as the child—both alike belong to me. The one who sins is the one who will die. -Ezekiel 18:4, NIV Nothing you can do! This is another way of saying the cheating is in no way your fault. You cannot control whether or not your cheater chooses … Continue reading “Nothing YOU Can Do”