When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when … Continue reading “Permission to divorce comes with permission to remarry”
Category: Cheating
Suffer with you
“Let Me Show You the Way” is an old but favorite song from Michael W. Smith. He really captures the heart of true friendship. This song by MWS speaks to what I believe is a human longing. It is a longing for a good friend who loves at a deep, heart-level. These are the friends … Continue reading “Suffer with you”
What kind of harvest?
7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. 8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. 9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in … Continue reading “What kind of harvest?”
Communication issues? Really?!
“Sounds like you all need to learn how to better communicate,” says clueless pastor to Cheater and Faithful Spouse. This is such a pathetic cop out to the real problems a couple faces when infidelity has occurred. The problems are much deeper than “communication issues.” Adultery is sin. So, it is a sin, not a … Continue reading “Communication issues? Really?!”
Cheater: “I sorted the issues around my affair with my therapist. We’re good.”
“I talked through my issues around the affair with my therapist. We’re good now,” says Cheater. He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.“ -Mark 10:11, NIV An affair is a violation of the marriage vow to “forsake all others.” The cheater has sinned against their spouse–whether physically or … Continue reading “Cheater: “I sorted the issues around my affair with my therapist. We’re good.””
God’s word is solid.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “They’re getting away with it!” says Faithful Spouse. I get this feeling. Sometimes, it feels like your Cheater does not miss a beat discarding you on their way to an … Continue reading “God’s word is solid.”
Commanded to side with the abused
Look on victims of abuse as if what happened to them had happened to you. -Hebrews 13:4b, MSG Adultery is abuse. The Bible is clear that when we have sex with another that we become one with them. That means affair partners are becoming one with the faithful spouse as well. It is a deep, … Continue reading “Commanded to side with the abused”
Never about other spouse
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV The affair is never about the other spouse. I know this is a controversial thing to write. But it is true from a pastor’s perspective. We know this truth from … Continue reading “Never about other spouse”
Control Temptation
23 Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: 24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. -Psalm 139:23-24, KJV A natural temptation is to focus on controlling or directing the Cheater’s behavior. Please do your best to resist this temptation! … Continue reading “Control Temptation”
Too much hating of divorce…
Too much hating of divorce is taught in church and not enough hating of adultery! I used to be of the camp that would say I hate divorce, too. These days I find that saying unhelpful. It perpetuates a poor translation of Malachi 2:16, which actually does not have God hating divorce. All of this … Continue reading “Too much hating of divorce…”