32 Then the king called in the man he had forgiven and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave you that tremendous debt because you pleaded with me. 33 Shouldn’t you have mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?’ -Matthew 18:32-33, NLT A big struggle with us, faithful spouse, surrounds the topic of forgiveness. … Continue reading “God looks upon the heart – Parable of Unforgiving Servant”
Category: Cheating
Repentance is not concerned with image
Cheaters are often more worried about what people think about them than what they actually did. This is the reason that they are so upset when faithful spouses dare tell others about their adultery. Such revelations make them look bad. It is hard to spin committing adultery in a positive light–especially in a Christian community. (Albeit, some … Continue reading “Repentance is not concerned with image”
An intentional marriage torching
Some cheaters know their faithful spouse will give them unending, second chances. So, they set up a system to torch the marriage. These are the haughty cheater types. They think they are the prize and the faithful spouse must demonstrate their worthiness. Such pride is at the root of their sinfully wicked hearts. They abuse … Continue reading “An intentional marriage torching”
Cheater-Speak: “Open and honest” ploy
“Why can’t you just be open and honest with me?! I am being completely open and honest with you,” says a lying cheater in a marriage session. Openness and honesty is a noble attribute of healthy relationships. That is what makes this cheater plea so dangerous. It looks good to an outsider. Who is against openness … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “Open and honest” ploy”
Flunking Basic Christianity
The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor. -Romans 13:9-10a, NIV Cheaters have been known to profess their commitment to Christianity … Continue reading “Flunking Basic Christianity”
Just because a cheater says they are a Christian does not make it so!
“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” -Matthew 7:21, NIV Confessing “Christian” Cheaters One of the most confusing part of dealing with adultery and general infidelity discoveries is how they do not fit with the … Continue reading “Just because a cheater says they are a Christian does not make it so!”
Reconciliation, NOT Restoration
And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. – 2 Corinthians 5:19b, NIV Reconciled to friendship, NOT marriage! What often bothers me about Christians talking about marriages ravaged by adultery is how “reconciliation” is thrown about as the same thing as marriage restoration. It is not. A former couple could experience true reconciliation … Continue reading “Reconciliation, NOT Restoration”
Messy openness
The lips of the wise give good advice; the heart of a fool has none to give. -Proverbs 15:7, NLT When I was desperate to stop my first marriage from ending, I made the mistake of opening myself up to too many people. It was messy. I think part of this mistake was born of … Continue reading “Messy openness”
Lectures from spiritually blind Cheater Apologists
“But you have turned from the way and by your teaching have caused many to stumble; you have violated the covenant with Levi,” says the Lord Almighty. -Malachi 2:8, NIV More than one of my (now) ex-wife’s family members took it upon themselves to lecture me about how I needed to be a better Christian and … Continue reading “Lectures from spiritually blind Cheater Apologists”
God’s opinion matters most!
Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV If God is for us,who can be against us? -Romans 8:31b, NIV Trust God, Fear NOT “Man!” My anxiety often escalates when I start concerning myself with the opinions of “man” over what I know is God’s verdict … Continue reading “God’s opinion matters most!”