See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. Hebrews 12:15, NIV In order to avoid the discomfort of facing injustice and naming it as such, some Christians turn on faithful spouses calling them “bitter.” They are too spineless to … Continue reading ““Root of bitterness””
Category: Cheating
Clarity Among Confusion
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV Dealing with infidelity is incredibly confusing. The one who vowed to remain faithful to you until death do you part is behaving in very odd ways. They are supposed to … Continue reading “Clarity Among Confusion”
Crazy Counseling – Time to find someone else!
Then the man said, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.” -Genesis 3:12, NKJV Now, over a decade removed from the events, I shake my head as I remember what I tolerated and endured. This blog is the fruit of hard-earned lessons from that season. One of … Continue reading “Crazy Counseling – Time to find someone else!”
Opposes the proud
As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” -James 4:6b, NLT Did you catch that? “God opposes the proud.” This is at the core of the cheater problem–i.e. pride. They believe they are more important than their spouse, and they are believe that they are entitled to their sinful … Continue reading “Opposes the proud”
Truly, this is spiritual warfare!
Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. -I Peter 5:8, NLT When talking about infidelity, many fail to state an obvious spiritual truth: This is spiritual warfare! The Devil wants to devour Christians. I personally believe he is having great … Continue reading “Truly, this is spiritual warfare!”
Sometimes the wife cheats and then abandons
She [the adulteress] gives no thought to the way of life; her paths wander aimlessly, but she does not know it. -Proverbs 5:6, NIV Sometimes, the wife decides she would rather live life as a single person. What makes this especially painful for those of us left behind is how shame is compounded to this … Continue reading “Sometimes the wife cheats and then abandons”
Your best days are ahead of you!
The Lord blessed the latter part of Job’s life more than the former part. -Job 42:12a, NIV A lie the Enemy wants you to believe is that your life is over following adultery discovery and divorce. He wants you fearful that all that is left for you is awful following a divorce from a cheater. Some “Christians” … Continue reading “Your best days are ahead of you!”
Painful loss of “friends”
Yet my friends laugh at me, for I call on God and expect an answer. I am a just and blameless man, yet they laugh at me. -Job 12:4, NLT Years removed, it is still difficult to think of old “friends” and accept the friendship is over for good. These could have been relationships developed … Continue reading “Painful loss of “friends””
Familiar abusive approach
“I don’t want to hear any more about what he did to you. What we need to talk about is your NEED to forgive!” -Christian “friend” Some Christians seemed flummoxed by the faithful spouse’s recoil at such a response to their situation. What these “friends” fail to see is what they actually saying and doing … Continue reading “Familiar abusive approach”
Possible to repent? Sure. Likely? No.
As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly. -Proverbs 26:11, NIV Within the Christian community, so much pressure is placed upon faithful spouses to “reconcile” with their cheating partners. Sometimes lip service is given to the importance that the cheater has actually changed and will not cheat again. However, the general … Continue reading “Possible to repent? Sure. Likely? No.”