The Other Man was discovered. I wrote a letter to my (then) wife letting her know I would not tolerate her cheating anymore. She could either choose to work to prove to me that her cheating days were over, or she could expect me to terminate my relationship–friendship included–with her permanently. Obviously, she chose the … Continue reading “Stay strong and do not repeat my mistake!”
Category: Cheating
“Model Divorced” Expectations
“Yes, we are divorced. But we’re friends. I understand I made mistakes, too, in our marriage.” – “Model” Divorcee If you do get divorced, I sense this is what people–maybe Christians especially–want to hear. They want a nice narrative where they do not have to pick sides. Maybe some divorcees can become friends with each other after the … Continue reading ““Model Divorced” Expectations”
Choosing to not dwell on troubling thoughts
Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. -John 14:27, KJV “Let NOT your heart be troubled…” (Emphasis mine) This is a command from Jesus. A command that implies we have a … Continue reading “Choosing to not dwell on troubling thoughts”
Real friends
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. -Proverbs 17:17, NLT One of the hardest parts of infidelity discovery is how that impacts your relationships. You lose some people out of the whole disaster. The tricky thing is discerning which relationships are over and which to keep … Continue reading “Real friends”
Calculating power dynamics
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. -I Corinthians 13:4-5, NIV “You would just hold this over my head for the rest of our marriage if I stayed,” … Continue reading “Calculating power dynamics”
Just because they say something…
Public Service Announcement: Just because a cheater says so… …does not make it so! Remember that you are hearing words coming from a proven liar. That is what all cheaters are: Proven Liars. When they say things about you and your marriage, you have to discount that with this fact about their deficient character. They … Continue reading “Just because they say something…”
Your parents or in-laws should NOT call the shots!
And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” -Matthew 19:5-6, NLT A parent (or in-law) inserting themselves into the marriage … Continue reading “Your parents or in-laws should NOT call the shots!”
“I had to…” Cheater lie
“I had to find someone else, because you never were interested in sex with me,” says the cheater. “I had to cheat with him, because that was the only way I could get your attention,” says the cheater. “I had to ____ (fill in the blank),” says the cheater. The “I had to …” lie … Continue reading ““I had to…” Cheater lie”
“Just needing space” line
“I just need some space,” says Cheater. I was listening to some music yesterday as I cut the lawn. The song brought up this line from his girlfriend and had the “hilarious” that his girlfriend didn’t seem to need space from another man. Maybe you got this line or a similar one from your cheater? … Continue reading ““Just needing space” line”
Regarding Envy of Cheater Prosperity
There is something else meaningless that occurs on earth: the righteous who get what the wicked deserve, and the wicked who get what the righteous deserve. This too, I say, is meaningless. -Ecclesiastes 8:14, NIV The observation of the wicked prospering while the righteous are punished is not a new one. That is what this … Continue reading “Regarding Envy of Cheater Prosperity”