Why would a spouse married to a pastor or chaplain cheat on him (or her)? My answer to this question really is the same answer I would give to someone who asked why their spouse cheated on them. It really is simple. The cheater somewhere accepted an “excusing lie” that permitted them to cheat. A … Continue reading “Mailbag: Why does a spouse cheat on their spouse who is a pastor?”
Category: Demons and Spiritual Warfare
Public Service Announcement: A partial truth is still fully a lie!
So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. -Ephesians 4:25, NLT Public Service Announcement: Partial Truths Are Fully Lies! This is a very common tactic of caught cheaters. They will confess to the point where the evidence would make them look ridiculous but … Continue reading “Public Service Announcement: A partial truth is still fully a lie!”
“Was there anything true in his criticism?”
“Sure, some of what he stated was false. But was there anything true in his criticism of you?” -Cheater Supporter He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” -Genesis 3:1b, NIV Danger! Danger! Danger! When a cheater apologist encourages you to dig in the … Continue reading ““Was there anything true in his criticism?””
Walking on wild water!
So Peter stepped out onto the water and began to walk toward Jesus. 30 But when he realized how high the waves were, he became frightened and started to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he cried out. 31 Jesus immediately stretched out his hand and lifted him up and said, “What little faith you have! Why would you let doubt … Continue reading “Walking on wild water!”
Listen of Love or Fear? Your choice.
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV When faced with stressful circumstances, are you going to listen to Love or Fear? Fear tells us that it is too much. It intimidates. Fear tries to get us to … Continue reading “Listen of Love or Fear? Your choice.”
Biblical Case for Shame
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. -Ephesians 5:8a, NIV I believe a lie is always present when it comes to shame. Either we are being lied to, or we are living a lie. God did not design us to live in the darkness doing the deeds of the darkness. … Continue reading “Biblical Case for Shame”
Spiritual trauma best addressed by faithful pastors
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. -Proverbs 17:22, NIV Much of the suffering faithful spouses experience is spiritual in nature. Writing this blog for a couple of years, the questions I encounter center around deep spiritual pain and confusion. These are not so much the nuts and … Continue reading “Spiritual trauma best addressed by faithful pastors”
When they try to normalize cheating…
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Cheaters often use the same plays. This is why I believe a dark spiritual element is evident in all cases of infidelity. The commonalities in behavior are too eerily alike to be just be coincidences. Some wicked force is coordinating this evil! One thing I remember my (now) … Continue reading “When they try to normalize cheating…”
Those Self-Righteous, Religious Pricks!
“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? … Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye…” – Matthew 7:3, 5a, NLT When I was going through my trials, I had no shortage of religious people willing to “help” me see my “sin” or … Continue reading “Those Self-Righteous, Religious Pricks!”
Do not be fooled by religious behavior
For day after day they seek me out; they seem eager to know my ways, as if they were a nation that does what is right and has not forsaken the commands of its God. -Isaiah 58:2, NIV Some cheaters excel at doing things that make them look like “good” Christians. That is part of the trauma … Continue reading “Do not be fooled by religious behavior”