To heal, we have to acknowledge the truth. The sad thing is our cheater may never actually do this. They might engage you in an endless battle over getting you to take responsibility for their abuse of you. That argument is one crazy ride. Refuse to take the bait. While helpful, you do not have … Continue reading “Crazy ride? No thanks.”
Category: Emotional Affair
Never really loved you
Some Cheaters are in loved with being loved. The value that they placed on their relationship with you was in how you adored and pursued them. As soon as that slipped, they started thinking about finding another supply of adoration. In other words, it was always about themselves. They never really loved you for you. … Continue reading “Never really loved you”
Complacent Cheating
This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth, And says, “I have done no wickedness.” -Proverbs 30:20, NKJV Cheaters can get complacent in their cheating. Because they have such big egos and such high contempt for their spouse, they may fail to keep up the deception. Their “game” slips and then … Continue reading “Complacent Cheating”
Seared Moments
Certain moments stay with us for a lifetime. They are seared into our memories in technicolor. I will never forget a walk I had near my old condominium in the city. While I was walking, I was talking on the phone with my now ex-wife. The walk and conversation are still with me today–over a … Continue reading “Seared Moments”
No Other Man Drama
So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; Whoever touches her shall not be innocent. -Proverbs 6:29, NKJV My Cheater loved the fantasy of being central and fought over for her affections. I know this as that was the take away for her from watching the awful movie, “Fireproof.” The scene of the husband fighting … Continue reading “No Other Man Drama”
Part I: Dr. Michael Brown Firefly Misconduct Report Analysis
“On January 13, 2025, Firefly was contacted to conduct an independent investigation involving Michael Brown, founder of the Fire School of Ministryand The Line of Fire – Dr. Brown Ministries, Inc., alleging sexual misconduct toward two adult females within his ministry.” -James Holler, Jr., “Firefly Independent Sexual Abuse Investigations: Investigation into the Allegations of Sexually … Continue reading “Part I: Dr. Michael Brown Firefly Misconduct Report Analysis”
Worse… so much worse!
Worse… so much worse! I remember early in my first marriage’s ending how I was hoping it was “just” an emotional affair. The whole not taking emotional affairs seriously was a problem I was yet to reckon with personally. The reality is the cheating is usually MUCH worse than what we see in the initial … Continue reading “Worse… so much worse!”
So called “justifications”
“We were already divorced in our hearts,” says Cheater. “Our marriage has had problems for years,” says Cheater. “I’ve been unhappy in our marriage for a long time,” says Cheater. Cheaters accept lies to “justify” their sinful behavior. This is what is at the root of the problem for Cheaters. They have bought into lies. … Continue reading “So called “justifications””
Need to preach about righteous divorces
Sharing only testimonies of reconciled and restored marriages following adultery… …feeds false hope in “reconciliation” for faithful spouses dealing with unrepentant cheaters. Show of hands. How many here thought their marriage was going to “make it” and then you would have a testimony about marriage reconciliation to share with others? I know I did. The … Continue reading “Need to preach about righteous divorces”
Emotional Affair Back-Handed Blaming
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT Emotional Affair Back-Handed Blaming So, your Cheater admits to an “emotional affair.” They may even do this in the presence of a pastor or counselor. How does … Continue reading “Emotional Affair Back-Handed Blaming”