“Well, what do you know?” says Cheater. This is a clear sign that your Cheater is in full-blown damage control. They want to know what is known so that they don’t “over” confess. Plus, they want to know where the leaks are so that they can plug them. I do not recommend showing all your … Continue reading ““What do you know?””
Category: Emotional Affair
Healing words for faithful spouses
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “Yes, it happened. She cheated on you. And that’s right: you didn’t deserve it. It’s not your fault. Not at all.” You really want to help a faithful spouse. … Continue reading “Healing words for faithful spouses”
Unmet emotional needs excuse
“You were all so busy with the kids. I felt neglected.” -Cheater “I never would have cheated if you had given me the attention he did!” -Cheater Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Your cheater may try to “justify” their sin to you. Maybe they will point to you spending too much time … Continue reading “Unmet emotional needs excuse”
Dr. Brown Responses Underplays EAs
“…I did not have an affair, but we developed a very unhealthy and sinful soul tie.” -Dr. Brown’s email to Cantor on October 26, 2024 On February 20, 2025, BROWN was interviewed by Firefly ….. During this interview, BROWN admitted to what he called an “emotional affair” during the second half of 2001 with IS … Continue reading “Dr. Brown Responses Underplays EAs”
Crazy ride? No thanks.
To heal, we have to acknowledge the truth. The sad thing is our cheater may never actually do this. They might engage you in an endless battle over getting you to take responsibility for their abuse of you. That argument is one crazy ride. Refuse to take the bait. While helpful, you do not have … Continue reading “Crazy ride? No thanks.”
Never really loved you
Some Cheaters are in loved with being loved. The value that they placed on their relationship with you was in how you adored and pursued them. As soon as that slipped, they started thinking about finding another supply of adoration. In other words, it was always about themselves. They never really loved you for you. … Continue reading “Never really loved you”
Complacent Cheating
This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth, And says, “I have done no wickedness.” -Proverbs 30:20, NKJV Cheaters can get complacent in their cheating. Because they have such big egos and such high contempt for their spouse, they may fail to keep up the deception. Their “game” slips and then … Continue reading “Complacent Cheating”
Seared Moments
Certain moments stay with us for a lifetime. They are seared into our memories in technicolor. I will never forget a walk I had near my old condominium in the city. While I was walking, I was talking on the phone with my now ex-wife. The walk and conversation are still with me today–over a … Continue reading “Seared Moments”
No Other Man Drama
So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; Whoever touches her shall not be innocent. -Proverbs 6:29, NKJV My Cheater loved the fantasy of being central and fought over for her affections. I know this as that was the take away for her from watching the awful movie, “Fireproof.” The scene of the husband fighting … Continue reading “No Other Man Drama”
Part I: Dr. Michael Brown Firefly Misconduct Report Analysis
“On January 13, 2025, Firefly was contacted to conduct an independent investigation involving Michael Brown, founder of the Fire School of Ministryand The Line of Fire – Dr. Brown Ministries, Inc., alleging sexual misconduct toward two adult females within his ministry.” -James Holler, Jr., “Firefly Independent Sexual Abuse Investigations: Investigation into the Allegations of Sexually … Continue reading “Part I: Dr. Michael Brown Firefly Misconduct Report Analysis”