“Telling” to Manipulate Normally, a Cheater coming “clean” with what they did is a good sign that you have something to work with (if you so choose). Yet how they disclose is important and can completely invalidate that hope. If your Cheater discloses and then launches into how you “drove them” to cheat, this is not repentance … Continue reading ““Telling” to manipulate”
Category: Emotional Affair
Cheater-Speak: “I think it’s best…”
“I think it’s best for both of us if we live apart.” -Cheater A Cheater saying something like this is a Cheater planning on abandoning the faithful spouse. Now, they may or may not be self-aware about this. It is possible that they are so self-deceived that they believe the lie about the separation benefits. … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I think it’s best…””
On Temporary Discomfort
For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. -2 Corinthians 4:17, NIV Weight training in equipment has provided a life lesson: Pressing into the discomfort leads to joy afterwards! When you have over 700lbs/317kg hanging over you, pressure starts building in the head with … Continue reading “On Temporary Discomfort”
Foolish Cheater
Don’t be so stupid as to think you can get away with your adultery. It will destroy your life, and you’ll pay the price for the rest of your days. -Proverbs 6:32, TPT Some Cheaters are so drunk on their pride that they believe no one will discover their adulterous sins. This is really sad. … Continue reading “Foolish Cheater”
Moments of lucidity
20 All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear their sins will be exposed. 21 But those who do what is right come to the light so others can see that they are doing what God wants. -John 3:20-21, NLT In my experience, Cheaters sometimes tell on themselves in little moments … Continue reading “Moments of lucidity”
All trust torched
“You have not taken care of the weak. You have not tended the sick or bound up the injured. You have not gone looking for those who have wandered away and are lost. Instead, you have ruled them with harshness and cruelty.” -Ezekiel 34:4, NLT What is more harsh or cruel than to blame–i.e. condemn–a … Continue reading “All trust torched”
New attention to looks!
New attention to their appearance A telltale sign of cheating is a new found focus on one’s appearance. This might manifest via going on a diet, increased exercise routine, or changing hair colors and style. In and of itself, this does not equate to cheating. However, the motive behind these changes is worth considering. I … Continue reading “New attention to looks!”
Boy, the stress!
My tears have been my food day and night, While they continually say to me, “Where is your God?” -Psalm 42:3, NKJV I remember going through a phase during my separation and divorce where I had to consciously remind myself to eat. The trauma from discovering the Other Man resulted in a twenty pound weight … Continue reading “Boy, the stress!”
PSA: Use a different therapist than your Cheater’s.
Public Service Announcement(PSA): Use a different therapist than your Cheater’s individual therapist.* If this therapist was half competent, they would not even agree to work on you as a couple. They would recognize that they naturally would be biased against you, the faithful spouse. Plus, do you really want the therapist who was present through … Continue reading “PSA: Use a different therapist than your Cheater’s.”
Overflow from the heart
21 For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, 22 adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. 23 All these evils come from inside and defile a person. -Mark 7:21-23, NIV Cheating did not happen overnight. An idea was planted. The Cheater watered it, and it produced the rotten … Continue reading “Overflow from the heart”