For this command is a lamp,
this teaching is a light,
and correction and instruction
are the way to life,
keeping you from your neighbor’s wife,
from the smooth talk of a wayward woman.-Proverbs 6:23-24, NIV
So many bad decisions!
The act of infidelity is often underplayed by cheaters and cheater apologists. They treat this act as a “one-off” sort of thing. What they do not acknowledge is the numerous bad choices or decisions made by a cheater to get them to that one act.
Cheaters decide to welcome the sexual attention of someone who is not their spouse.
This includes MULTIPLE decisions to allow this attention to continue when they know this is a violation of their marriage vows as they usually hide this relationship. Welcoming this attention also comes with choices to seek it out by making oneself available to such.
Then there are all the logistics needed in order to have an illicit, adulterous relationship.
This takes planning. Even the “hotel room at a work conference scenario” takes decisions. Your cheater decided to follow or bring their affair partner with them to a hotel room. Then they made decisions to take off their clothes. They made decisions to kiss. Finally, they decided to have adulterous sex. Lots of bad decisions here.
That is just the actual cheating bad decisions; you also have all the cover up bad decisions.
Cheaters will gaslight their partners when they suspect something happened. That is a choice. Also, some cheaters will lie to mutual friends and family to stay in control of the narrative about the marriage. These are decisions, bad ones.
