“I felt like I had to lie because you would get angry if you knew,” says Cheater. What the Cheater is really saying is that they feared not having complete control over you once you were no longer in the dark about the truth. Knowledge is power as the saying goes. They did not feel like … Continue reading “Their “honesty””
Category: Emotional Affair
Phenomenon: Kid gloves with female Cheaters
“Rebuke your mother, rebuke her, for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband. Let her remove the adulterous look from her face and the unfaithfulness from between her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NIV I’ve noticed a phenomenon among pastors dealing with female Cheaters: They have a tendency to advocate for gentler confrontation with female … Continue reading “Phenomenon: Kid gloves with female Cheaters”
Shattered Self Esteem
He will not crush the weakest reed or put out a flickering candle. He will bring justice to all who have been wronged. -Isaiah 42:3, NLT Shattered Self Esteem One of the many stupid things about the dynamics regarding cheating is how all the sympathy often is sucked up by the Cheater. They are treated … Continue reading “Shattered Self Esteem”
Transparency and Honesty?
Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. -John 3:22, NIV Only seeking transparency and honesty? No. Rather, Cheaters are seeking information and power. It is funny how Cheaters talk a big game about wanting transparency and honesty. The irony … Continue reading “Transparency and Honesty?”
Playing the Martyr
Some Cheaters are very adept at playing the martyr. They are the aggrieved party, not you. Yes, they cheated, but they only did so because you are such an awful spouse. They are happy to tell you what they’ve allegedly been putting up with that “drove them” to cheat. They are a marriage martyr. Often times, … Continue reading “Playing the Martyr”
Stick to your “guns”
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Stick to your “guns!” Do not waste your time with a pastor or counselor who wants to go over your marriage “troubles” while avoiding the infidelity of your spouse. This … Continue reading “Stick to your “guns””
Reasonable, but not!
See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the elemental spiritual forces of this world rather than on Christ. -Colossians 2:8, NIV I thought it was so reasonable… …but it wasn’t. It was worldly wisdom. My (now) ex-wife presented her “emotional affair” to me as … Continue reading “Reasonable, but not!”
Will not repent even in the face of counter evidence
For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. -2 Timothy 4:3, NIV Before discovery or even after discovery of an affair, you might experience … Continue reading “Will not repent even in the face of counter evidence”
Yes, phone sex IS cheating!
Yes, phone sex IS cheating! This ought to be obvious from the actual subject. While “Phone sex” does not involve direct physical contact, it certainly crosses the line emotionally as far as “forsaking all others” is concerned. But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of … Continue reading “Yes, phone sex IS cheating!”
More concerned about how you found out
Pro-Tip: When the Cheater is more concerned about how you found out than the damaged they did to you, then you know they are not remorseful. This is the behavior of someone who is looking for the source of the leaked information. People ask such questions to continue their behavior. They are looking to plug … Continue reading “More concerned about how you found out”