“For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.” – John 3:20, NKJV Silence about infidelity is the same thing as avoiding the light. It says the person does not what his or her wicked deeds exposed. They have not truly embraced repentance and … Continue reading “Denial is not forgiveness”
Category: Emotional Affair
Questioning faithful spouses over “their part”
The fathers shall not be put to death for the children, neither shall the children be put to death for the fathers: every man shall be put to death for his own sin. – Deuteronomy 24:16, KJV “What did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?” -Inquiring Christian I do not like this sort … Continue reading “Questioning faithful spouses over “their part””
Adultery, Trauma, and Forgiveness
Yesterday, I came across an interesting article about forgiveness and trauma care from a mental health provider, Anastasia Pollock, LCMHC. It is entitled: “Why I Don’t Use the Word ‘Forgiveness’ in Trauma Therapy” Pollock writes, As soon as I say, “You don’t have to forgive,” the person usually breathes a sigh of relief. Once we … Continue reading “Adultery, Trauma, and Forgiveness”
Actually, it IS your RESPONSIBILITY to judge a “Christian” cheater!
I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin…. It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. -I Corinthians 5:11a, 12, NLT Adultery certainly qualifies as sexual sin. What does the … Continue reading “Actually, it IS your RESPONSIBILITY to judge a “Christian” cheater!”
Cheaters framing vice as virtue
Last night, Mrs. DM and I watched the movie “Downsizing” with actor, Matt Damon, starring. It is a futuristic movie about a world where you can opt to undergo an irreversible procedure shrinking you to a fraction of your true size and thereby enter a world where you money goes a long ways. ***SPOILER ALERT*** … Continue reading “Cheaters framing vice as virtue”
A forgiveness hope
When Joseph’s brothers saw that their father was dead, they said, “What if Joseph holds a grudge against us and pays us back for all the wrongs we did to him?” -Genesis 50:15, NIV His brothers literally sold him into slavery and led their father to believe he was dead. Joseph was truly WRONGED by his … Continue reading “A forgiveness hope”
Dear DM, How does a cheater like myself truly come to repentance and empathy?
Hi. I am the cheater in my relationship. I have been addicted to porn for 20 years as well as have visited massage parlors and strip clubs for 10 years. My sin is indeed grevious [sic]. My wife is leaving and divorcing me. I agree with everything you say in your posts. I deserve nothing. … Continue reading “Dear DM, How does a cheater like myself truly come to repentance and empathy?”
When you feel hope slipping…
31 “So then, forsake your worries! Why would you say, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear?’ 32 For that is what the unbelievers chase after. Doesn’t your heavenly Father already know the things your bodies require?” -Jesus in Matthew 6:31-32, TPT Are you a “champion” worrier like me? More than … Continue reading “When you feel hope slipping…”
As they say, “The road to Hell is paved…”
“The road to Hell is paved… …with good intentions.” -A proverb This saying is a wise one to remember when dealing with the aftermath that comes following infidelity discovery. It applies both to the actual cheater and to those who profess they are only giving “care.” “I never intended to hurt you.” – Cheater … Continue reading “As they say, “The road to Hell is paved…””
Brothers and Sisters, Hate evil!
Ye that love the Lord, hate evil: he preserveth the souls of his saints; he delivereth them out of the hand of the wicked. – Psalm 97:10, KJV Do you love the Lord? The command here in the Psalms is rather clear: Hate evil! It is strong language. But this is what Scripture teaches us. … Continue reading “Brothers and Sisters, Hate evil!”