In the multitude of words sin is not lacking, But he who restrains his lips is wise. -Proverbs 10:19, NKJV People’s criticisms say a lot… …but not necessarily anything about the one criticized. This is a lesson impressed upon me during my formal training in clinical pastoral care. It is an important lesson to remember … Continue reading “Criticisms say a lot…”
Category: Emotional Affair
What DO I say to an adultery victim as a pastor?!
“And if anyone gives even a cup of cold water to one of these little ones who is my disciple, truly I tell you, that person will certainly not lose their reward.” -Matthew 10:42, NIV What DO I say to an adultery victim as a pastor? Yesterday’s post raised this question. Dr. Skinner suggested a … Continue reading “What DO I say to an adultery victim as a pastor?!”
PTSD and adultery from expert, Dr. Kevin Skinner
Dr. Kevin Skinner is an American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT) supervisor who does research in the area of sexual betrayal. Here is his biography. His research into the matter of sexual betrayal has led him to the conclusion such betrayal leads to PTSD for many of its victims. He talks about being … Continue reading “PTSD and adultery from expert, Dr. Kevin Skinner”
Jesus is condemning, too!
“Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because they have not believed in the name of God’s one and only Son.” -Jesus in John 3:18, NIV Jesus is condemning, too! We often make God in our own image or an image we prefer. That image of Jesus is … Continue reading “Jesus is condemning, too!”
You have your integrity still.
When Peter saw him [John], he asked, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” – John 21:21-22, NIV It is understandable. You have been soul raped and your world has been turned upside down by your partner’s selfish, … Continue reading “You have your integrity still.”
What is the Greek for “soul rape?”
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! -I Corinthians 6:15, NKJV When I explained how a cheater violates the soul of a faithful spouse as soul rape, I had a “Christian” psychologist retort to me: “What’s the … Continue reading “What is the Greek for “soul rape?””
“For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer” Vows
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “…for better, for worse…” These are familiar parts of the wedding vows in a Christian wedding ceremony. But do we really believe … Continue reading ““For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer” Vows”
“Vengeance is mine,” says God
Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say,“I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord. -Romans 12:19, NLT What allows Christian victims to let go of the injustices they experienced? Is it a denial wrongs happened? No. Is it a minimization of the … Continue reading ““Vengeance is mine,” says God”
Money Power and Cheaters
Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable. Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment. -I Timothy 6:17, NLT Cheaters can be cruel. Money is just one leverage point cheaters use … Continue reading “Money Power and Cheaters”
Too Much at Stake to Sail Off!
So until I come, be diligent in devouring the Word of God, be faithful in prayer, and in teaching the believers. -I Timothy 4:13, TPT Too much is at stake to just sail off into my blessed sunset! I wish more faithful spouse pastors had not simply sailed off into their sunset prior to my … Continue reading “Too Much at Stake to Sail Off!”