She wraps herself in strength, might, and power in all her works. -Proverbs 31:17, TPT Yesterday, I came across some fascinating research findings about our society. It comes from the Pew Research Center. The article is “Strong Men, Caring Women: How Americans describe what society values (and doesn’t) in each gender” by Kristi Walker, Kristen Bialik, and … Continue reading “Gender Role Idolatry – DM Thoughts on Pew Research”
Category: Emotional Affair
Choose empathy over pity for the divorced in church!
Divorcee:“I’m divorced.” Christian church-goer:“I’m sorry. That’s too bad.” Sometimes, it is easy to feel like one has a scarlet “D” tattooed to one’s backside. Do I have to justify my divorce to every Christian to whom I reveal my marital status? I know some of us do not struggle with this. Some people seem … Continue reading “Choose empathy over pity for the divorced in church!”
Personal integrity intact…or not
When Peter saw him [John], he asked, “Lord, what about him?” Jesus answered, “If I want him to remain alive until I return, what is that to you? You must follow me.” – John 21:21-22, NIV It is understandable. You have been soul raped and your world has been turned upside down by your partner’s selfish, … Continue reading “Personal integrity intact…or not”
DM, What about that Jesus’ saying on the cross about forgiveness?
DM, I love this site, and I wholeheartedly agree with the articles and posts. If you haven’t already, would you consider doing a post on Jesus’ words on the cross? “Father, forgive them…they know not what they do”. None of us is fully aware of the devastation our sins have caused, in the physical and … Continue reading “DM, What about that Jesus’ saying on the cross about forgiveness?”
Breaking the Golden Rule
For this, “Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet;” and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, “Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” -Romans 13:9, KJV (quotation marks and emphasis mine) Cheaters break … Continue reading “Breaking the Golden Rule”
Whacked Out Crazy Cheaters
They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. -Jeremiah 6:14, NIV A common theme I’ve noticed over the years is how mental illness seems present with cheaters. They are often highly unstable types. Now, I am not a mental health provider and … Continue reading “Whacked Out Crazy Cheaters”
It was a hug for me.
“Goodbye in her eyes” by Zac Brown Band It wasn’t a kiss. It was a hug. We had just finished our dentist appointments. She had forgotten that she had made joint appointments. I had already confronted her about the Other Man about two weeks prior. She was still lying about him and still denying adultery. … Continue reading “It was a hug for me.”
More Vicious When Cheating
They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right. -Romans 2:15, NLT Sometimes cheaters become crueler to their spouses when they are actively engaged in infidelity. They cheat and attend couples counseling where they tell the counselor or … Continue reading “More Vicious When Cheating”
Pro-Tip: Give up on trying to get narrative agreement!
A sage trying to work things out with a fool gets only scorn and sarcasm for his trouble. Proverbs 29:9, The Message When I was processing the end of my marriage and even while I was still fighting for it not to end in divorce, I wasted a lot of energy contending over the marriage narrative … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Give up on trying to get narrative agreement!”
Takes Two People: Job did NOT cheat!
Then his wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!” But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?” – Job 2:9-10a, NKJV His wealth was all stolen. His … Continue reading “Takes Two People: Job did NOT cheat!”