Category: Emotional Affair

Cheater-Speak: “She has nothing to do with our marriage problems.”

***My eBook is releasing in less than a week!!! Monday, November 12th. Get your copy now while it is still on the low price of only $4.99.*** “She has nothing to do with our marriage problems. You know that!” -Caught Cheater If your cheater is responding with some version of this, your marriage is over. … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “She has nothing to do with our marriage problems.””

Both/And NOT Either/Or, Pastors!

***My eBook is releasing in less than a week!!! Monday, November 12th. Get your copy now while it is still on the low price of only $4.99.*** THE “EITHER/OR”: EITHER you support marriages OR you support those going through divorce. When Mrs. DM and I were at our former church, I proposed to offer my services … Continue reading “Both/And NOT Either/Or, Pastors!”

Fickle equals fully fake repentance

***My eBook is releasing in less than a week!!! Monday, November 12th. Get your copy now while it is still on the low price of only $4.99.***   “Get busy living or get busy dying.” – Andy Dufresne in Shawshank Redemption   “Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. … Continue reading “Fickle equals fully fake repentance”

Abusing God’s Name

Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth … Continue reading “Abusing God’s Name”

Denial is not forgiveness

“For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.” – John 3:20, NKJV Silence about infidelity is the same thing as avoiding the light.  It says the person does not what his or her wicked deeds exposed. They have not truly embraced repentance and … Continue reading “Denial is not forgiveness”

Questioning faithful spouses over “their part”

The fathers shall not be put to death for the children, neither shall the children be put to death for the fathers: every man shall be put to death for his own sin. – Deuteronomy 24:16, KJV “What did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?” -Inquiring Christian I do not like this sort … Continue reading “Questioning faithful spouses over “their part””

Adultery, Trauma, and Forgiveness

Yesterday, I came across an interesting article about forgiveness and trauma care from a mental health provider, Anastasia Pollock, LCMHC. It is entitled: “Why I Don’t Use the Word ‘Forgiveness’ in Trauma Therapy” Pollock writes, As soon as I say, “You don’t have to forgive,” the person usually breathes a sigh of relief. Once we … Continue reading “Adultery, Trauma, and Forgiveness”

Actually, it IS your RESPONSIBILITY to judge a “Christian” cheater!

I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin…. It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. -I Corinthians 5:11a, 12, NLT Adultery certainly qualifies as sexual sin. What does the … Continue reading “Actually, it IS your RESPONSIBILITY to judge a “Christian” cheater!”

Cheaters framing vice as virtue

Last night, Mrs. DM and I watched the movie “Downsizing” with actor, Matt Damon, starring. It is a futuristic movie about a world where you can opt to undergo an irreversible procedure shrinking you to a fraction of your true size and thereby enter a world where you money goes a long ways. ***SPOILER ALERT*** … Continue reading “Cheaters framing vice as virtue”