Hi. I am the cheater in my relationship. I have been addicted to porn for 20 years as well as have visited massage parlors and strip clubs for 10 years. My sin is indeed grevious [sic]. My wife is leaving and divorcing me. I agree with everything you say in your posts. I deserve nothing. … Continue reading “Dear DM, How does a cheater like myself truly come to repentance and empathy?”
Category: Emotional Affair
When you feel hope slipping…
31 “So then, forsake your worries! Why would you say, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear?’ 32 For that is what the unbelievers chase after. Doesn’t your heavenly Father already know the things your bodies require?” -Jesus in Matthew 6:31-32, TPT Are you a “champion” worrier like me? More than … Continue reading “When you feel hope slipping…”
As they say, “The road to Hell is paved…”
“The road to Hell is paved… …with good intentions.” -A proverb This saying is a wise one to remember when dealing with the aftermath that comes following infidelity discovery. It applies both to the actual cheater and to those who profess they are only giving “care.” “I never intended to hurt you.” – Cheater … Continue reading “As they say, “The road to Hell is paved…””
Brothers and Sisters, Hate evil!
Ye that love the Lord, hate evil: he preserveth the souls of his saints; he delivereth them out of the hand of the wicked. – Psalm 97:10, KJV Do you love the Lord? The command here in the Psalms is rather clear: Hate evil! It is strong language. But this is what Scripture teaches us. … Continue reading “Brothers and Sisters, Hate evil!”
Speaking partial truths is still speaking lies!
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV A partial truth is still a lie. Some of the greatest damage done in my … Continue reading “Speaking partial truths is still speaking lies!”
Weight and Money
When a husband is unemployed, his lack of funds is an easy target for cheaters to use as a “reason” to cheat and leave. When a wife is overweight, her weight is an easy target for cheaters to use as a “reason” to cheat and leave. On Weight and Money Rejections What bothers me greatly … Continue reading “Weight and Money”
How a church responds to their pastor’s divorce…
How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “How a church responds to their pastor’s divorce…”
Pro Tip: Not everyone is reasonable!
“Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.” -Servant to Abigail, I Samuel 25:17, NIV This verse comes from the story of David, Abigail, and Nabal recorded in I … Continue reading “Pro Tip: Not everyone is reasonable!”
Unfaithful Senior Pastor Resigns and Elmbrook Church Does Right By His Wife
Marital infidelity (and addiction) took down another prominent senior pastor. Jason Webb formerly the senior pastor to Elmbrook Church in Wisconsin resigned on September 19, 2018 due to his infidelities and unspecified addiction. While this is an awful situation for all involved, I applaud the church leadership for how they are handling the matter. They … Continue reading “Unfaithful Senior Pastor Resigns and Elmbrook Church Does Right By His Wife”
Pastors need to say it aloud!
“From the least to the greatest, all are greedy for gain; prophets and priests alike, all practice deceit. They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. Are they ashamed of their detestable conduct? No, they have no shame at all; they … Continue reading “Pastors need to say it aloud!”