Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. – Genesis 2:24, KJV In my fear of being labelled “controlling,” I had a difficult time while my marriage was imploding recognizing healthy jealousy and boundaries. And I suspect I am not alone … Continue reading “On Forsaking All Others…”
Category: Emotional Affair
Deal with their contempt!
Most importantly, I want to remind you that in the last days scoffers will come, mocking the truth and following their own desires. -2 Peter 3:3, NLT If a cheater is still displaying contempt for their spouse, stop wasting your time on “reconciliation” work. The cheater isn’t repentant. Cheaters speak contempt with fluidity. I find … Continue reading “Deal with their contempt!”
PSA: Do NOT use your cheater’s therapist!
Public Service Announcement: Do NOT use your cheater’s individual therapist for couple’s counseling! One of my many mistakes with my first marriage’s demise was agreeing to see my (now ex) wife’s individual therapist for couple’s counseling. The therapist and her had worked with each other for months, if not years, by that point. I knew … Continue reading “PSA: Do NOT use your cheater’s therapist!”
Cheater Marriage History Revisionism: A brain in blender experience
Telling lies about others is as harmful as hitting them with an ax, wounding them with a sword, or shooting them with a sharp arrow. -Proverbs 25:18, NLT One of the many things that baffles me about the accepted Christian “wisdom” on healing marriages ravaged by adultery is how often pastors and counselors seem to … Continue reading “Cheater Marriage History Revisionism: A brain in blender experience”
Children calling out cheater mother obituary pulled
Some might have seen the news about an obituary causing a stir with the children of the deceased publicly exposing their mother’s affair and abandonment of them as children. Their words about their deceased mother were blunt. The short version is they are glad she is no longer living and is now facing God’s judgment. … Continue reading “Children calling out cheater mother obituary pulled”
Gottman WaPo Article on Marriage Myths
Last Friday, The Washington Post ran an article addressing five myths regarding marriage. The article is entitled, “Five Myths About Marriage” and is written by John Gottman and Christopher Dollard. For those who are unaware, the Gottmans are relationship research experts due to their very thorough longitudinal scientific study of relationships. They are giants in the literature as … Continue reading “Gottman WaPo Article on Marriage Myths”
“Kid” gloves with female cheaters
“Rebuke your mother, rebuke her, for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband. Let her remove the adulterous look from her face and the unfaithfulness from between her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NIV Pastors and other Christian counselors have a tendency to advocate for gentler confrontation with female cheaters. It is a kid gloves … Continue reading ““Kid” gloves with female cheaters”
Mailbag: Time limit on divorce?
Dear Divorce Minister, I discovered that my wife was unfaithful 5 years ago. I wanted to work thing out and told her “Maybe now, we can have the marriage that we always should have had.” She said she was sorry and wanted to make this work and our marriage did get better at least in … Continue reading “Mailbag: Time limit on divorce?”
Yelling at “Bear” in SIX
So, I am watching a TV series that is a dramatization of Seal Team Six. It is called, “SIX.” The leader of this Seal team is a character nicknamed, “Bear.” He and his wife, Lena, are going through a difficult time. They lost a daughter and were struggling to get pregnant again. In the second … Continue reading “Yelling at “Bear” in SIX”
How to prepare for Christian couples counseling post-infidelity discovery
Cheating is exposed. Now, the cheater is willing to go to couples therapy and rebuild what the cheater destroyed. How does a faithful spouse approach such sessions with a Christian couples counselor? 1. Remember you have choices here. Did you choose this counselor? What do you know about him or her? If this person is … Continue reading “How to prepare for Christian couples counseling post-infidelity discovery”