For this, “Thou shalt not commit adultery, Thou shalt not kill, Thou shalt not steal, Thou shalt not bear false witness, Thou shalt not covet;” and if there be any other commandment, it is briefly comprehended in this saying, namely, “Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.” -Romans 13:9, KJV (quotation marks and emphasis mine) Cheaters break … Continue reading “Breaking the Golden Rule”
Category: Emotional Affair
Whacked Out Crazy Cheaters
They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. -Jeremiah 6:14, NIV A common theme I’ve noticed over the years is how mental illness seems present with cheaters. They are often highly unstable types. Now, I am not a mental health provider and … Continue reading “Whacked Out Crazy Cheaters”
It was a hug for me.
“Goodbye in her eyes” by Zac Brown Band It wasn’t a kiss. It was a hug. We had just finished our dentist appointments. She had forgotten that she had made joint appointments. I had already confronted her about the Other Man about two weeks prior. She was still lying about him and still denying adultery. … Continue reading “It was a hug for me.”
More Vicious When Cheating
They demonstrate that God’s law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right. -Romans 2:15, NLT Sometimes cheaters become crueler to their spouses when they are actively engaged in infidelity. They cheat and attend couples counseling where they tell the counselor or … Continue reading “More Vicious When Cheating”
Pro-Tip: Give up on trying to get narrative agreement!
A sage trying to work things out with a fool gets only scorn and sarcasm for his trouble. Proverbs 29:9, The Message When I was processing the end of my marriage and even while I was still fighting for it not to end in divorce, I wasted a lot of energy contending over the marriage narrative … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Give up on trying to get narrative agreement!”
Takes Two People: Job did NOT cheat!
Then his wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!” But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?” – Job 2:9-10a, NKJV His wealth was all stolen. His … Continue reading “Takes Two People: Job did NOT cheat!”
Divorce rates are poor proxies. Stop lamenting them, pastors, please!
For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another! – Galatians 5:14-15, NKJV Lamenting divorce rates among Christians Likely, it is meant well. Good intentions are there, I am … Continue reading “Divorce rates are poor proxies. Stop lamenting them, pastors, please!”
Dear Divorce Minister, Am I expecting too much?
Dear Divorce Minister, I was googling today just to see if there was anything else that the Lord would want me to know. This letter from Mike is the exact reversal of my story. 11 years ago, I was a wealthy woman with business interest and income that exceeded $1.2 mil per year, At that … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister, Am I expecting too much?”
“I’m afraid of him” Trump Card
“I’m afraid of him,” she–aka cheater–says. This like a blank check that a female cheater can cash in at anytime for sympathy and support from pastors and therapists alike. Most do not bother to ask any followup questions as to why she is claiming such fear. If they do, they might get: “I’m afraid, because he … Continue reading ““I’m afraid of him” Trump Card”
“Model” Faithful Spouse
“I am innocent, but it makes no difference to me— I despise my life. Innocent or wicked, it is all the same to God. That’s why I say, ‘He destroys both the blameless and the wicked.’” -Job 9:21-22, NLT Ever noticed the pressure among Christians to talk about “our part” when our marriages end in divorce–even to … Continue reading ““Model” Faithful Spouse”