Some might have seen the news about an obituary causing a stir with the children of the deceased publicly exposing their mother’s affair and abandonment of them as children. Their words about their deceased mother were blunt. The short version is they are glad she is no longer living and is now facing God’s judgment. … Continue reading “Children calling out cheater mother obituary pulled”
Category: Emotional Affair
Gottman WaPo Article on Marriage Myths
Last Friday, The Washington Post ran an article addressing five myths regarding marriage. The article is entitled, “Five Myths About Marriage” and is written by John Gottman and Christopher Dollard. For those who are unaware, the Gottmans are relationship research experts due to their very thorough longitudinal scientific study of relationships. They are giants in the literature as … Continue reading “Gottman WaPo Article on Marriage Myths”
“Kid” gloves with female cheaters
“Rebuke your mother, rebuke her, for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband. Let her remove the adulterous look from her face and the unfaithfulness from between her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NIV Pastors and other Christian counselors have a tendency to advocate for gentler confrontation with female cheaters. It is a kid gloves … Continue reading ““Kid” gloves with female cheaters”
Mailbag: Time limit on divorce?
Dear Divorce Minister, I discovered that my wife was unfaithful 5 years ago. I wanted to work thing out and told her “Maybe now, we can have the marriage that we always should have had.” She said she was sorry and wanted to make this work and our marriage did get better at least in … Continue reading “Mailbag: Time limit on divorce?”
Yelling at “Bear” in SIX
So, I am watching a TV series that is a dramatization of Seal Team Six. It is called, “SIX.” The leader of this Seal team is a character nicknamed, “Bear.” He and his wife, Lena, are going through a difficult time. They lost a daughter and were struggling to get pregnant again. In the second … Continue reading “Yelling at “Bear” in SIX”
How to prepare for Christian couples counseling post-infidelity discovery
Cheating is exposed. Now, the cheater is willing to go to couples therapy and rebuild what the cheater destroyed. How does a faithful spouse approach such sessions with a Christian couples counselor? 1. Remember you have choices here. Did you choose this counselor? What do you know about him or her? If this person is … Continue reading “How to prepare for Christian couples counseling post-infidelity discovery”
Fitness Assessment is NOT Pastoral Care
When my trial to retain my minister’s license ended, I was given a year of “pastoral care” as part of my clearance with my (now former) denomination. The local denominational official in charge of executing this year of “pastoral care” decided it meant the year would conclude with a vote on my fitness–more or less–to … Continue reading “Fitness Assessment is NOT Pastoral Care”
Another Oldie But Goodie Song on Self-Respect
It’s a problem not unique to us. We are not the first people who are tempted to give up our self-respect in an attempt to keep the lying cheater. The following song at the bottom of this post is from a 1960s song about having some self-respect as a man walking away from an lying … Continue reading “Another Oldie But Goodie Song on Self-Respect”
Stuck. Cheater. Stuck.
Sometimes dealing with a cheater is like dealing with an immature teenager. They behave as if a marriage is like dumping a boyfriend or girlfriend. The depths of the betrayal they just committed do not seem to register for them. Worse yet, these immature boy-childs or little-girls seek conversations with their victims about “what went … Continue reading “Stuck. Cheater. Stuck.”
They probably are…
When I was going through my divorce–prior to discovering the adultery partner–my divorce lawyer suggested my ex and her family had tried to exploit my vulnerability. The details do not really matter. Her point was that my ex and her cohorts were likely up to no good. Fair was not their priority. I did not … Continue reading “They probably are…”