“The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?” -Jeremiah 17:9, NLT Feeling obligated to have an explanation for an abandonment or divorce plays a significant role in the suffering in my experience. It is crazy-making. You do not have access to the thoughts … Continue reading “Why? Ask the cheater.”
Category: Emotional Affair
Cheaters and the Absence of God’s Discipline
If God doesn’t discipline you as he does all of his children, it means that you are illegitimate and are not really his children at all. -Hebrews 12:8, NLT Cheaters and the Absence of God’s Discipline Faithful spouses–present company included–struggle when we watch our cheaters seem to not miss a beat in their lives experiencing … Continue reading “Cheaters and the Absence of God’s Discipline”
Divorce Minister Blog Vision
…fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. – Hebrews 12:2, NIV Why create the blog “Divorce Minister?” Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is a ministry born … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Blog Vision”
Polygamy in the Bible and Cheaters
He [King Solomon] had 700 wives of royal birth and 300 concubines. And in fact, they did turn his heart away from the LORD. -I Kings 11:3, NLT An overseer, then, must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, temperate, prudent, respectable, hospitable, able to teach…. -I Timothy 3:2, NASB [emphasis mine] What about all that polygamy in … Continue reading “Polygamy in the Bible and Cheaters”
Cheater-speak: “Against you alone, God, have I sinned!”
Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight; so you are right in your verdict and justified when you judge. -Psalm 51:4, NIV This verse comes after Nathan, the prophet, confronts King David over his adultery with–really sexual exploitation of–Bathsheba. Part of that confrontation included some rather harsh … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “Against you alone, God, have I sinned!””
Abused and Manipulated.
Rescue me, Lord, from evildoers; protect me from the violent, who devise evil plans in their hearts and stir up war every day. They make their tongues as sharp as a serpent’s; the poison of vipers is on their lips. -Psalm 140:1-3, NIV Cheaters know what they are doing. -They lie to avoid giving the faithful spouse the power that … Continue reading “Abused and Manipulated.”
Fools and Foolish Arguments.
Don’t answer the foolish arguments of fools, or you will become as foolish as they are. -Proverbs 26:4, NLT If someone is not willing to listen, save your breath. They have made up their mind, and you are best moving on. You do not need to stick your head into that mind-blender. Move on. Let … Continue reading “Fools and Foolish Arguments.”
When your cheater is a pastor or therapist…
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT Letting go and trusting a cheater to God is tough. I think this is especially so when the cheater counsels others and works in a field where … Continue reading “When your cheater is a pastor or therapist…”
Don’t blame age!
Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” “There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.” “Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” -I Samuel 16:11, NLT Not much has changed in … Continue reading “Don’t blame age!”
Watch out if she asks you for “rules!”
“This is the covenant I will make with the people of Israel after that time,” declares the LORD. “I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people.” -Jeremiah 31:33, NIV If your spouse lacks an internal moral compass, then … Continue reading “Watch out if she asks you for “rules!””