Category: Emotional Affair

Dear DM, I am cheating with my pastor.

Dear Divorce Minister, Please I need help,I’ve been having extra marital affair with my pastor,we’ve been seeing each other consistently, we tried so stay away from each other after some time will be in contact again, I suggested that I should leave his church he’s literally refusing, I tried to find a job away from … Continue reading “Dear DM, I am cheating with my pastor.”

Dear Divorce Minister, What should I look for?

Dear Divorce Minister, My husband choose to continue his affair, which has resulted in me filling for divorce. He did not show any true remorse just used the word sorry. His actions in continuing to see his AP told me otherwise. When the divorce is final he is then not committing a sin anymore. What … Continue reading “Dear Divorce Minister, What should I look for?”

Confessing Christian Cheater

“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” -Matthew 7:21, NIV Confessing “Christian” Cheaters One of the most confusing part of dealing with adultery and general infidelity discoveries is how they do not fit with the … Continue reading “Confessing Christian Cheater”

Divorce Minister on the “Nashville Statement”

Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many miracles?’ Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’ -Matthew 7:22-23, NIV With some trepidation, I begin this post. My … Continue reading “Divorce Minister on the “Nashville Statement””

Dear DM, How would you have responded?

Hey DM, I am interested in what you will say to Christian friends that they are praying for you and the ex to remarry. Said “friend” knows we are divorced but states God can work on ex and then “family” can be back together. Now this is all stated under their guise of caring for … Continue reading “Dear DM, How would you have responded?”

If you think remarriage is forbidden for faithful spouses…

If you think remarriage for faithful spouses is forbidden… …THEN THIS BLOG IS NOT FOR YOU!!! As I read Scripture, faithful spouses are free to remarry after divorce without shame. This includes remarrying while the cheater is still alive. Faithful spouses are free from the marital bonds severed via a godly divorce. But if the husband … Continue reading “If you think remarriage is forbidden for faithful spouses…”

Returning a victim to an abuser who enjoys abusing them.

I know that after I leave, savage wolves will come in among you and will not spare the flock. -Acts 20:29, NIV What amazes me about the usual advice given to faithful spouses is how the advice ignores the abuse dynamic inherently involved in every situation where adultery has occurred. What’s the “usual advice?” You … Continue reading “Returning a victim to an abuser who enjoys abusing them.”

Christ first or family first? The (ex) in-laws.

I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. -Matthew 10:35, NLT While the saying: “Blood is thicker than water” too often proves true when it comes to a cheater getting support from their (enabling) parents, it is not the way of true … Continue reading “Christ first or family first? The (ex) in-laws.”

No Issues With Never Being Married To Her Again.

Not one of you will enter the land I swore with uplifted hand to make your home, except Caleb son of Jephunneh and Joshua son of Nun. -Numbers 14:30, NIV While I hope my ex-wife finds repentance one day, I have moved on with my life. We will never be married again as I am … Continue reading “No Issues With Never Being Married To Her Again.”