Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Not Cheap!”
Category: Emotional Affair
Aggressors, not victims!
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! -I Corinthians 6:15, NIV Cheater, you are the aggressor, not the victim, here! For whatever reasons, people are often taken in by the pity story a caught Cheater spins … Continue reading “Aggressors, not victims!”
Suffer with you
“Let Me Show You the Way” is an old but favorite song from Michael W. Smith. He really captures the heart of true friendship. This song by MWS speaks to what I believe is a human longing. It is a longing for a good friend who loves at a deep, heart-level. These are the friends … Continue reading “Suffer with you”
Cheater: “I sorted the issues around my affair with my therapist. We’re good.”
“I talked through my issues around the affair with my therapist. We’re good now,” says Cheater. He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her.“ -Mark 10:11, NIV An affair is a violation of the marriage vow to “forsake all others.” The cheater has sinned against their spouse–whether physically or … Continue reading “Cheater: “I sorted the issues around my affair with my therapist. We’re good.””
Commanded to side with the abused
Look on victims of abuse as if what happened to them had happened to you. -Hebrews 13:4b, MSG Adultery is abuse. The Bible is clear that when we have sex with another that we become one with them. That means affair partners are becoming one with the faithful spouse as well. It is a deep, … Continue reading “Commanded to side with the abused”
Never about other spouse
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV The affair is never about the other spouse. I know this is a controversial thing to write. But it is true from a pastor’s perspective. We know this truth from … Continue reading “Never about other spouse”
God hates sin, not divorce!
I have seen your adulteries, And your lustful neighings, The lewdness of your harlotry, Your abominations on the hills in the fields. Woe to you, O Jerusalem! Will you still not be made clean?” -Jeremiah 13:27, NKJV God Hates Adultery More Than He Hates Divorce. This is my response to Christian counselors and pastors who … Continue reading “God hates sin, not divorce!”
Scrambling Cheater: How’d you find out?
“How’d you find out?” asks incredulous, busted Cheater. When a Cheater gets busted and their first impulse is to learn how you discovered them, you know that cheater is the opposite of repentant. Notice this question isn’t a denial of the behavior. Asking it is a confirmation of sorts. The arrogant Cheater is flabbergasted that … Continue reading “Scrambling Cheater: How’d you find out?”
Red Flag: She wants you to fight over her.
Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. -Proverbs 4:23, NLT Red Flag: Your wife wants you to fight over her with another dude pursuing her. When your wife is asking you to beat out another man in competition for her heart, you know she is deep in an … Continue reading “Red Flag: She wants you to fight over her.”
Waste of time
“But now bring charges against Israel—your mother— for she is no longer my wife, and I am no longer her husband. Tell her to remove the prostitute’s makeup from her face and the clothing that exposes her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NLT Staying with a cheater is often a waste of time. Cheaters often do not … Continue reading “Waste of time”