Category: Emotional Affair

Divorce lessons from the Christmas Story

This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, … Continue reading “Divorce lessons from the Christmas Story”

Cheater-Speak (Continued): “I lied because I thought you’d get angry.”

“I thought you would get angry. That is why I didn’t tell you.” -Cheater (on why she lied) to faithful spouse This sort of statement is red meat to therapists and pastors who see their roles as rescuers. They hear something like this, and immediately jump to rescue the (cheating) “damsel in distress.” They are … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak (Continued): “I lied because I thought you’d get angry.””

Cheaters seem to cheat while faithful spouses are most vulnerable.

Cheaters seem to thrive on cheating when their spouse is most vulnerable. This is yet another demonic pattern that I have noticed. The vulnerable time might take multiple forms: -Maybe the faithful spouse is in a fight for her life dealing with breast cancer? -Maybe it is a faithful husband who just was fired from … Continue reading “Cheaters seem to cheat while faithful spouses are most vulnerable.”

Cheater Narrative “Death” Match

Fools find no pleasure in understanding     but delight in airing their own opinions. -Proverbs 18:2, NIV Cheaters have a vested interest in having your agreement to their marriage ending narrative. If they have anything left of a conscience, they hope to alleviate the internal pain by getting your agreement to their narrative. Of course, this … Continue reading “Cheater Narrative “Death” Match”

Will never face the damage

 But when Pharaoh saw that there was relief, he hardened his heart and did not heed them, as the Lord had said. -Exodus 8:15, NKJV Some cheaters will never face the damage they created through their sins. This is a fact of life. God allows people to harden their hearts just as He allowed Pharaoh to do. Christians are … Continue reading “Will never face the damage”

Godliness over “intact homes”

The Idolatry of “Intact” Homes If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, NIV God did not prioritize keeping the marriage together over dealing with the evil of adultery in the Old … Continue reading “Godliness over “intact homes””

What went wrong? Not that difficult to answer with adultery involved.

Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Christians need not dig very deep to figure out what went wrong in a marriage when adultery occurred. Modern psychology and so called “Christian” counseling might disagree with me. However, I am very adamant that we do not treat adultery as a side issue to a marriage’s … Continue reading “What went wrong? Not that difficult to answer with adultery involved.”

Christian Leader, do not fall for the “wilting daisy” or “bruised reed” ploy!

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. – I Corinthians 13:11, NIV Let’s get something straight… A crushed “delicate flower” or a “bruised reed” does not have the energy … Continue reading “Christian Leader, do not fall for the “wilting daisy” or “bruised reed” ploy!”

“I don’t want to pick sides here!” says a Christian “friend”

“I don’t want to pick sides in this,” says a Christian “friend.” A person saying this is communicating to the adultery victim that they think something could justify their victimization. Let’s be clear: They ARE picking a side. It is the side of the adulterous spouse. This helps evil flourish. This is not a godly … Continue reading ““I don’t want to pick sides here!” says a Christian “friend””