“And I tell you this, whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery–unless his wife has been unfaithful.” -Matthew 19:9, NLT What did YOU contribute to your marriage’s breakdown?! Years ago, I used to believe this was a reasonable question to ask any divorced individual. After all, we are imperfect creatures. We … Continue reading “Worldly Wisdom says, “Own your part to the marriage’s breakdown.””
Category: Emotional Affair
Making a public sin, private is part of the problem.
But those elders who are sinning you are to reprove before everyone, so that the others may take warning. -I Timothy 5:20, NIV The risk I run by continuing this ministry is experiencing the judgment and condemnation of others. “He must be bitter.” “I am concerned about his new family. He you would think he would … Continue reading “Making a public sin, private is part of the problem.”
Even God requires repentance before welcoming back!
“If you want to come back, O Israel, you must really come back to me. You must get rid of your stinking sin paraphernalia and not wander away from me anymore.” -Jeremiah 4:1 (from 1-2 block), THE MESSAGE This verse comes on the heals of the chapter where God declares His divorce of Israel over … Continue reading “Even God requires repentance before welcoming back!”
Cheater, stop trying to blame your partner! Focus on YOUR part!!
“She will just keep this hanging over my head. I don’t think she will ever really forgive me.” -Cheater to pastor Cheater, focus on YOUR own part! A wise pastor and Christian counselor will not take this bait to bash the faithful spouse. Instead, he or she will remind the cheater that he only controls … Continue reading “Cheater, stop trying to blame your partner! Focus on YOUR part!!”
The Self-Deceived Cheater
Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron…. -I Timothy 4:2, KJV I am convinced the “best” liars are self-deceived cheaters. They believe what they are telling others. This might be the verbal diarrhea of “justifying” why they had to cheat or were entitled to cheat on their spouse. The saddest … Continue reading “The Self-Deceived Cheater”
Cheater-Speak: “I made a mistake. Give me a break!”
“It was a mistake. Come on! Give me a break.” -Cheater Adultery is far more than “a mistake.” The word just makes me cringe internally when I see or hear it used to talk about infidelity. In one sense, the word is accurate. The person did something wrong. A “mistake” highlights that. However, the word … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I made a mistake. Give me a break!””
Adultery Tolerant Churches Are Anti-Biblical
Boasting over your tolerance of sin is inappropriate. -I Corinthians 5:6a, TPT Some churches welcome adulterous spouses. They have no shame about this behavior. In fact, they celebrate how welcoming they are to these folks. It truly is head-scratching to think they see this sort of behavior as a faithful witness to how God wants … Continue reading “Adultery Tolerant Churches Are Anti-Biblical”
Integrity is valuable.
Choose a good reputation over great riches; being held in high esteem is better than silver or gold. -Proverbs 22:1, NLT When a spouse cheats, they destroy their reputation. They demonstrate a lack of integrity. People learning of this reality is not the problem. It is the bad actions that are! Many cheaters are upset about … Continue reading “Integrity is valuable.”
Yes, some people are THAT bad!
But when people keep on sinning, it shows that they belong to the devil, who has been sinning since the beginning. -I John 3:8, NLT One of the hardest parts of dealing with a cheater is believing the dark reality of what their behavior means. I know my experience was growing out of a naivete … Continue reading “Yes, some people are THAT bad!”
Is the cheater seeking forgiveness or really just accountability?
Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “Yes, but the Lord has forgiven you, and you won’t die for this sin. Nevertheless, because you have shown utter contempt for the word of the Lord by doing this, your child will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NLT Is the cheater asking for forgiveness or simply seeking to avoid … Continue reading “Is the cheater seeking forgiveness or really just accountability?”