Cheater Narrative “Death” Match

Fools find no pleasure in understanding     but delight in airing their own opinions. -Proverbs 18:2, NIV Cheaters have a vested interest in having your agreement to their marriage ending narrative. If they have anything left of a conscience, they hope to alleviate the internal pain by getting your agreement to their narrative. Of course, this … Continue reading “Cheater Narrative “Death” Match”

Will never face the damage

 But when Pharaoh saw that there was relief, he hardened his heart and did not heed them, as the Lord had said. -Exodus 8:15, NKJV Some cheaters will never face the damage they created through their sins. This is a fact of life. God allows people to harden their hearts just as He allowed Pharaoh to do. Christians are … Continue reading “Will never face the damage”

Godliness over “intact homes”

The Idolatry of “Intact” Homes If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, NIV God did not prioritize keeping the marriage together over dealing with the evil of adultery in the Old … Continue reading “Godliness over “intact homes””

What went wrong? Not that difficult to answer with adultery involved.

Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Christians need not dig very deep to figure out what went wrong in a marriage when adultery occurred. Modern psychology and so called “Christian” counseling might disagree with me. However, I am very adamant that we do not treat adultery as a side issue to a marriage’s … Continue reading “What went wrong? Not that difficult to answer with adultery involved.”

Christian Leader, do not fall for the “wilting daisy” or “bruised reed” ploy!

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. – I Corinthians 13:11, NIV Let’s get something straight… A crushed “delicate flower” or a “bruised reed” does not have the energy … Continue reading “Christian Leader, do not fall for the “wilting daisy” or “bruised reed” ploy!”

“I don’t want to pick sides here!” says a Christian “friend”

“I don’t want to pick sides in this,” says a Christian “friend.” A person saying this is communicating to the adultery victim that they think something could justify their victimization. Let’s be clear: They ARE picking a side. It is the side of the adulterous spouse. This helps evil flourish. This is not a godly … Continue reading ““I don’t want to pick sides here!” says a Christian “friend””

Burning bridges is sometimes wisdom in action!

I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people. – I Corinthians 5:11, NLT Some bridges need burning! I am thinking of … Continue reading “Burning bridges is sometimes wisdom in action!”

PSA: Committing adultery, pastors, is the real shameful matter here, NOT divorce!

But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away. -Proverbs 6:32-33, NIV The real shame is not faithful spouses divorcing cheaters, pastors. The real shame is Christians committing adultery! Preaching or counseling against divorce is a little late when it comes … Continue reading “PSA: Committing adultery, pastors, is the real shameful matter here, NOT divorce!”

A lie remains a lie even if spoken to a child.

Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices…. -Colossians 3:9, NIV A lie to a child is still a lie. As Christians, we are to be people who speak truth, not lies.  This applies to children of divorce following infidelity. A lie is a lie. Now, truth can … Continue reading “A lie remains a lie even if spoken to a child.”

Cheater Apologist: Why did she HAVE TO leave?

“Why did she HAVE TO leave?” – Cheater Apologist This is a loaded question.  If you even attempt to answer the question, you will lose. No good way to answer this question exist. It is like the classic loaded question: “When will you stop beating your wife?” Like this question assuming that you are beating … Continue reading “Cheater Apologist: Why did she HAVE TO leave?”