Cheaters often use anger as a way to avoid responsibility. You might have caught them red handed. Instead of repenting then and there, they turn on you with anger: -Maybe they blame you for “snooping” or otherwise invading their sacred privacy? -Maybe they use the occasion to say you forced them into this (sin)? -Maybe … Continue reading “Outrage of Cheaters”
Category: Emotional Affair
Sickening Smugness Among “Christians”
Smug, married Christians act intolerably towards faithful spouses hemorrhaging from soul rape. These are “know it all” Christians who think all that proceeds from their mouths is gold. They are the “wise” ones in their eyes. The reality is what proceeds from their mouths would be better used to fertilize the fields. These smug people … Continue reading “Sickening Smugness Among “Christians””
Still evil
But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive. -Genesis 50:20, KJV Just because God redeems a horrible situation does NOT mean the original sin is less than evil. God can take the discovery of adultery … Continue reading “Still evil”
Is there an “innocent party” in a divorce?
Is there such thing as an “innocent party” in a divorce? Yes. I struggled with this question when fighting to retain my minister’s license years ago. Psycho-babble is winning when we cannot identify or distinguish between the innocent party and the perpetrator. Now, I understand those who say we all contribute to our marriage relationship. … Continue reading “Is there an “innocent party” in a divorce?”
Marriage counseling is not magic. Therapy is not enough.
If attending pre-marital counseling, marriage therapy, and individual therapy could make a good marriage, then my first marriage ought to have been amazing. It wasn’t. Instead, my current marriage with Mrs. DM–where we have attended nearly zero therapy sessions together–is thriving. What’s my point? Attending therapy does not make a good marriage. Other elements are … Continue reading “Marriage counseling is not magic. Therapy is not enough.”
Hymn Encouragement: When through fiery trials…
“When through fiery trials thy pathway shall lie, My grace, all-sufficient, shall be thy supply. The flame shall not hurt thee; I only design thy dross to consume, and thy gold to refine.” -“How Firm a Foundation” (Public Domain) Discovering a spouse’s infidelity certainly qualifies as a “fiery trial!” I love the following line about … Continue reading “Hymn Encouragement: When through fiery trials…”
Spiritually Dangerous!
“But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars–they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.” -Revelations 21:8, NIV (emphasis mine) What if pastors led with this verse from Jesus to cheaters as opposed … Continue reading “Spiritually Dangerous!”
Why DM keeps blogging
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. -2 Corinthians 1:3-4, NIV Cheating combined with spiritual abuse is a … Continue reading “Why DM keeps blogging”
Confrontation takes real courage!
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” -Joshua 1:9, NIV When marital infidelity is discovered, it takes a great amount of courage to confront. The first confrontation is NOT with the cheater, though. … Continue reading “Confrontation takes real courage!”
Hillsong Pastor (no more) Carl Lentz cheated on spouse
“I was unfaithful in my marriage, the most important relationship in my life and held accountable for that. This failure is on me, and me alone and I take full responsibility for my actions.” -Carl Lentz on his Instagram Recently, Carl Lentz was fired from his position as pastor of Hillsong Church on the East … Continue reading “Hillsong Pastor (no more) Carl Lentz cheated on spouse”