The following lesson is a lesson I learned the hard way: Be choosy as it comes to who you use as a marriage therapist (if you choose to go that route and the cheater is willing). If the counselor has been your cheater’s individual therapist, they are not suited to help you both as a … Continue reading “Advice from a non-therapist…”
Category: Encouragement
Your spouse was never meant to meet this need…
Free Marriage Advice: If you are looking to your spouse to prove that you are lovable, you are looking to the wrong person. When we look to humans to fill a God-shaped hole, we will always be disappointed. Humans were never intended to “fix” us. Only God can satisfy the deepest longings in our souls. … Continue reading “Your spouse was never meant to meet this need…”
Most “Christian” resources I found during my difficult time…
While I am thankful for the help of some Christian resources in my dark season, I discovered most had an agenda apart from freely presenting the options. Most Christian resources–in my experience–are focused upon “saving the marriage.” This goal is pursued at the unacknowledged cost of the faithful spouse’s well-being. For these authors and pastors, … Continue reading “Most “Christian” resources I found during my difficult time…”
The power of hobbies
I am grateful for hobbies. One of my hobbies these days is chasing after a raw bench of 500 lbs (roughly 227 kilograms). This is slightly stymied by the Covid 19 restrictions in my state not allowing for spotters. However, I am still safely making gains (I think). It is a wonderful thing to have … Continue reading “The power of hobbies”
A song to break through fear!
Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world. -I John 4:4, KJV When faced with scary lies, I encourage you to remember who is with you. God is greater than any problem before you. Do not give into … Continue reading “A song to break through fear!”
An encouraging word for those hungry for justice
This morning I decided to listen to some sermons or thoughts from a favorite preacher, Bob Sorge. The sermon highlight entitled “Justice” caught my eye. I hope it will minister to your heart as it did mine:
Crazy bird man! Ha.
Well, I did not see this one coming. When I got divorced and remarried, I never thought I would become an owner of parrots. It just did not come up while dating Mrs. DM. Yet here I am… …five parrots later! Really, it is a joy. Mrs. DM knows how to play my love of … Continue reading “Crazy bird man! Ha.”
Whatever our troubles, they do not win. Jesus has and does!
“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” -Jesus in John 16:33b, NIV Whatever the trouble we may facing, we have these words of comfort from Jesus. The world does not win! It soothes my anxieties to remember this truth. While Jesus promises that we will experience trouble in this … Continue reading “Whatever our troubles, they do not win. Jesus has and does!”
Mailbag: What is our role?
Pastor David, I did want to ask your opinion/insight on something else if you don’t mind. I am struggling with what our role is as Christians when it comes to this sexual sin that is permeating our society and destroying marriages. I don’t want to let my pain blind me from the truth of the … Continue reading “Mailbag: What is our role?”
Integrity is valuable.
Choose a good reputation over great riches; being held in high esteem is better than silver or gold. -Proverbs 22:1, NLT When a spouse cheats, they destroy their reputation. They demonstrate a lack of integrity. People learning of this reality is not the problem. It is the bad actions that are! Many cheaters are upset about … Continue reading “Integrity is valuable.”