How long will my enemy triumph over me? -Psalm 13:2b, NIV When enduring the many injustices of marriage infidelity discovery, this is a common refrain of the heart. Life is very unfair. It seems like the cheater is “getting away with it.” The cheater seems so happy. They are get the thrills and you are … Continue reading ““How long, O Lord?!” cries the oppressed.”
Category: Encouragement
God is not surprised or overwhelmed
For hasn’t he promised you, “I will never leave you alone, never! And I will not loosen my grip on your life!” -Hebrews 13:5b, TPT A temptation when facing difficult circumstances is to believe we are on our own. It may feel that way, for sure. I know I felt it. The abandonment feelings are … Continue reading “God is not surprised or overwhelmed”
Do not take marriage advice from unrepentant cheaters!
Why do we take advice from an unrepentant cheater? I know I am not the only one who did. At least, I did this for a time. I opened myself up to her criticism as if she was qualified to identify “the problems.” This likely comes from a desperation to “save the marriage.” A solution … Continue reading “Do not take marriage advice from unrepentant cheaters!”
99 Cents Divorce Minister book for limited time!
In celebration of the blog’s sixth anniversary, I have decided to put my eBook on sale for $0.99 from Monday, July 13th through Sunday, July 19th, 2020! For less than one US dollar, you can gain access to the eBook version of my work here. In this book, I cover the basic topics of the … Continue reading “99 Cents Divorce Minister book for limited time!”
Divorce Minister Blog Ministry Turns Six Years Old!
Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously has existed for six years as of today! This ministry started as a way to share my thoughts on the important topic of marital infidelity and divorce. In fact, I first thought very few people would be interested in what I wrote. I grossly underestimated my audience. Divorce Minister continues to … Continue reading “Divorce Minister Blog Ministry Turns Six Years Old!”
DM, How did you move forward into a new relationship with Mrs. DM?
Hi DM, Question for you. How were you able to move forward with Mrs. DM with regards to trust? I am most likely getting divorced and am afraid that I would carry the scars of my WH’s serial infidelity/dishonesty into the next relationship (if I were to be brave enough to try to love again). … Continue reading “DM, How did you move forward into a new relationship with Mrs. DM?”
Happy Independence Day!!!
Hope you are all enjoying your July 4th holiday! I am away with my family up at a lake cabin during this time. So, the posts might be spotty. Grateful during this holiday to remember the gift of freedom. Also, I am grateful to be free from my cheater and with an amazing family, my … Continue reading “Happy Independence Day!!!”
The destructive case of the “what if’s”
“What if what the cheater is saying about me is true?!” -frets the faithful spouse This is a destructive “What if?” Faithful spouses stuck in this “What if?” are in real danger of spiritual and emotional destruction. They are allowing the daggers of cheater lies dig deeper into their heart. My encouragement is to remember … Continue reading “The destructive case of the “what if’s””
Faithful spouses, you are awesome!
After months, years, or even decades of emotional beat-downs, faithful spouses often struggle in knowing their incredible worth. We discount our gifts, abilities, and precious status in God’s eyes. Faithful spouses, you are an incredible bunch! The stories I hear and the people I have met through this ministry confirms this fact to me. I … Continue reading “Faithful spouses, you are awesome!”
Staying power of kindness
David asked, “Is there anyone still left of the house of Saul to whom I can show kindness for Jonathan’s sake?” -2 Samuel 9:1, NIV As faithful spouses, we deal with a lot of betrayals as we go through the valleys of infidelity discovery and divorce. For many of us, we also experience kindness from … Continue reading “Staying power of kindness”